The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

sanity December 18, 2009

Filed under: Conspiracy theories — Happy Nappy Bride @ 10:40 pm
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I was kinda hoping that by having this blog, that I’d be able to keep from driving The Mister crazy with all of my wedding talk.  You see, right after he first asked me, I got super busy with work.  So I wasn’t able to properly obsess over wedding deets and whatnot and I’d promised myself that I’d obsess when I had more time.

But then when I had more time, I really didn’t need to obsess.

I mean, let’s keep it real…there’s no way to have a cheap wedding (believe me, I tried to figure it out!), but I don’t really need to be in full crazy, obsessive mode until May.  My heart can’t take it and I’m sure The Mister can’t.  We’ve got the ceremony place, we’ve got the reception place, I’ve got a dress…

Okay, he doesn’t have a suit, nor has he given me his addresses for the save the dates…but a few deep breaths keep me from worrying about that too much.

Anyhoo, the conspiracy theorist in me wonders of the wedding industry needs brides to obsess about details that aren’t vital.  Nice, perhaps…but vital, no way.  What if, and I’m just wondering out loud here, but what if those folks that are making whoseits and whatsits for wedding favors are in cahoots with the wedding magazine people?  I mean, the magazine people need ads right?  And the whoseit and whatsit people need a place to sell their stuff right?  Could it be that they’ve thought up this whole “need” to have certain things at your wedding.

I’m not saying…I’m just saying.

I’ve got nothing against favors, we’re gonna use our centerpieces as favors, that was just an example…insert “vital, necessary wedding whoseit” in there if you’re fired up about favors.  The idea is that when you read those magazines, they make you feel like your wedding will s-u-c-k if you don’t have their stuff.  That’s just not true.  What would s-u-c-k?: your fiance not showing up, the officiant not showing up, forgetting to put on your dress and walking down the aisle naked (but if I had a body like Beyonce, I’d seriously think about it!)…I’m sure I can think of more things, but you get the idea.

I will continue to buy the wedding mags, because I can playa!  I’m gonna be a bride!  But I’m on to you crazy wedding folks and while I love your super pretty pics of super pretty people having super pretty weddings, I’m not drinking the kool aid.



Filed under: Details — Happy Nappy Bride @ 12:58 pm
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I know that everyone’s gone through the same deal:  The Mister asks, we scream/cry/holler “yes”, then we say…well, now what?

Since all of us ladies (contrary to popular belief) aren’t born with some sort of wedding gene or haven’t spent our entire lives planning a wedding and then just spend our time trying to hunt down some poor soul to fit into a plan that’s been in place long before he was even a thought.  *deep breath*  Whew, now that was a run-on sentence if I’ve ever seen one, but you get the point.

I hadn’t given it a lot of thought until he asked.  After chatting a bit after, we both quickly realized that an open bar would be an essential part of any wedding that involved the two of us.  That one bit of information had a surprisingly limiting effect on our reception venues.  If you do the whole hotel wedding/reception deal, then liquor is crazy expensive and since I’m cheap frugal, I couldn’t imagine paying thousands for a some cocktails.  So before I’d even taken time to think about how I wanted the wedding and reception to feel (which is highly important!), I knew we needed a place that’d let us bring our own drinks.

It’s pretty amazing to think how that one choice (a very important detail for The Mister and I) led us to the most amazing Victorian mansion where we’ll hold our reception.  I thought just by the looks of it that it would be well out of our price range, but the manager guy (good ole Ray) said, “we’ve got a Friday in May left…and it’s $1000 cheaper for events on Friday or Sunday.”  Wha?!  And I can choose my own caterer?  Yes.  And I can bring in alcohol?  Yes.  And all of the guests will be bowled over by how beautiful this place is?  Yes.

So there it is…how we’ll end up getting married on a Friday:  because we want our friends & family to be able to drink to their heart’s content without silently adding up drink prices in our heads the whole night.

Plus, the venue will provide tables, linens, chairs, and setup (*clapping*)…yay!!  Plus, plus:  the place is decorated so beautifully that I can keep those pennies that would’ve gone to decorating in my pocket.  Seriously, we’re not decorating.  No, really. Nothing.  Except for flowers, but I’m a little nutty about flowers…I’m sure there’ll be more about that later.


6 months to go

Filed under: Black weddings — Happy Nappy Bride @ 11:29 am
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So that’s me.

I’m Dawn and I’m getting married in May.  That picture is from the day The Mister and I were getting our engagement photos taken.  I was nervous about the hair and using my phone to send my sis-in-law a preview of “the look”.  Plus, you get an extra special peek at our bathroom here at work…isn’t it nice?

So The Mister asked me to marry him in July and I immediately went to the bookstore and bought lots & lots of wedding magazines (after I said yes, of course!)…why?  Because I could that’s why!  I’m getting married and it’s finally kosher for me to buy wedding magazines, so I’m going to buy me some wedding magazines thank you very much.

But oddly enough, though I know Black people date, fall in love, and get married…there were virtually no Black people in the wedding magazines.  Then I found the wedding blogs…nope, no Black people there either.  Hmmm, what a quandry?  Now, I don’t want you to think I’m a militant Black Panther or something (please, I’m like the female version of Carlton from Fresh Prince of Bel Air…I’m all Banana Republic and J. Crew), but it seems that something is amiss.

So this space will be a place for indie brides (I just heard that term on another blog and thought it sounded cool) of all shades to come together to talk about our weddings, the lives we’d like to create, and the details…because if you know me, then you know the deets (details) are important.

I intend to write everyday and I hope that you read everyday.