(I found this by Googling “happy Black couple…not bad, huh?)
The first of many pieces of advice I got about the wedding was that I must (must!) invite everyone as a pair…that it would be tacky not to let everyone bring a guest. Now I’m all about etiquette (my mom had me writing thank you notes for gifts before I could spell my own name correctly) and think that’s it’s fabulous to have a set of behaviors that is generally agreed upon as “good”.
That being said, I was trying to figure out how on Earth I could invite everyone with a guest to a reception that will max out at 150 people. Know what I decided? Eff it. I can’t give everyone a guest, sorry. I’m sure some folks will say (behind my back of course) that I’m being uber rude, but I can’t sweat it. I’ll take some snide comments rather than not inviting someone (who’s not in a relationship, but will scramble to find someone…anyone!…to fill that “and guest” role so that they’re not there without a date) who is very important to me, but not dating anyone seriously.
I suppose you can guess that since I like etiquette, that I love Martha Stewart. Girrrl, she’ll make a twenty course meal and look at the camera and say that it was easy…and be serious! Anyhoo, I was on the Martha wedding site and they say that I’m right! Woo hoo!! Go on over here and check it out, but here’s a snippet:
I sort of like the “you can only bring a date if you’re married (duh!) engaged, or living together” rule. Any less specific, and you’ve opened the floodgates: “But he told me he loved me! or “I slept over and he remembered my name!”
What are you and your sweetie doing about this?