The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

phase II February 17, 2010

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I’m her.  Who, you ask?  Crazy bride-to-be who’s worried about losing weight for the wedding, that’s who!

I don’t know when it happened…somewhere between buying my dress this summer and trying it on the other day and having it not fit properly.  Dangit!  I’ve been trying to console myself with the fact that designers make dresses two sizes too small, but that doesn’t change the fact that in July that mug fit and now it doesn’t.  *sigh*

I’m not a big person, never been a big person…just not in my genes.  So I’ve never really had to diet.  I’ve always said that the word “diet” should always be a noun and never a verb.  But now I think I’ll add a caveat…unless you’re getting married and everyone you know and love will be staring at you and you want to look your best for them and for the pictures.

Anyhoo, started working out six and a half weeks ago…lifting, light cardio and whatnot.  I can honestly say that it took me two weeks to not be sore and to stop shooting daggers at The Mister when he tried to touch me, lol.  Now that I’ve got phase one (operation: get buff) almost complete (only five and a half more weeks to go), it’s time to go to the next level.  Phase two…operation: get tight.  I’ve got to lose a few and of course I’ll continue to take cardio classes and whatnot after the lifting’s finished, but the most important thing I’ve got to do is control my eating.

Little Debbie, Lays, Ben & Jerry’s…you ain’t said nothing but a word.  So like I did with my lifting where I keep meticulous records of my workouts, I’ll do the same for food stuff…here are my tools:

A food journal:


And food counter:

You may be saying to yourself, Dawn, you may be tending a bit to the anal side…to which I would say, I know, lol!  Do you ever drive your own self crazy?  Well I do daily and this is one of the reasons: anal, thy name is Dawn.  But I’ll be able to chart my progress, make sure I’m eating healthily (and not just think I’m eating healthy), and see what an appropriate amount of calories is for me.

Mission Slimpossible is about to begin!


giving honor

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I’ve mentioned before that my dad died a couple of years ago.  And much like weddings, when you plan a funeral, you learn all sorts of stuff.  At that time, I didn’t realize that all veterans receive a flag on their coffin when they get buried.  I also didn’t realize that you can request current Army folk to play Taps at the funeral…or that those same folks will fold up the flag and give it to the oldest sibling.

Now I’m not the oldest sibling, but my brother and I’d just bought my dad a retirement gift (he died one day short of retiring) which was really nice, so when we were going through everything, I decided to keep the flag and he kept the retirement gift.

Saying I was a daddy’s girl would be the understatement to end all understatements!  Me and pops were close…he got me, I got him, we vibed.  Anyhoo, I wanted to find a way to honor him in the ceremony beyond just a mention in the program or something like that.  I’ve decided to have my neice and nephew walk my dad’s flag down the aisle just ahead of me (and my brother who’s standing in for my dad)…I’m pretty fired up about this.  I think people will enjoy it…and his side of the fam will probably boo hoo, but that’s okay.  Sometimes a little boo hooing is called for.

Are you doing anything to honor those that have passed on?  I came up with this because I just couldn’t imagine my dad not walking me down the aisle.  Now with a little imagination and help from my fam…my dad can be a physical presence.