Did you know that, according to my calculations, Blacks and Hispanics have spent over 566 billion dollars on weddings? Did you know that it’s still pretty hard to find representation of those same folks in wedding magazines and popular wedding blogs…even though they’re spending all of that money? Wanna read more? Then go on over here.
weddzilla post April 13, 2010
Tags: african american bride, black bride, finances
I was in a meeting yesterday at work and the guy who was leading it asked who wanted to make calls to folks with good and bad news. He looked around at everyone and I volunteered right away. Then he was like, “I can make the calls to the folks who’ve got the bad news if you like.” I looked at him like he was crazy and said (literally): I have no problem with “no”. So everyone got all, “watch out for Dawn” and “I wouldn’t want to see Dawn in a back alley”, yada, yada, yada.
What’s wrong with “no”? It’s not a bad word?
And I’m finding that I’ve become emboldened with the power of “no” when it comes to wedding planning. For myself: no, I can’t buy a purse that costs $200 that will only be used at the reception. No! For the fam: no, cousin so and so can’t come to the wedding right now…we don’t have room. No! But maybe as more “no” RSVP’s come in, we’ll be able to make room for them. See? A positive “no”!
So ladies, there’s nothing wrong with “no”…it’s just another word. But a powerful word that can help you set boundaries for yourself and others as you plan your wedding. Have you had to use any “no’s” lately?