The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

Why marriage? July 9, 2010

Filed under: Marriage — Happy Nappy Bride @ 11:42 pm

I got my Essence mag in the mail the other day and Steve Harvey has a “What Men Think” column in there.  Someone asked about getting a man to marry them when the dude’s excuse is “marriage is just a piece of paper”.  No matter what you think of that excuse, I liked the answer:

Tell him marriage is a lifestyle, a life-altering event, a total commitment to another person and that person’s well-being.  And membership has its privileges, especially for men.  A wife commits to building, dreaming, and growing with her man, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer–something a girlfriend is under no obligation to do.  Plus, the responsibility of  being someone’s husband is rewarding and gives a man a sense of purpose unlike any other.

What do you guys think of that answer?  Would you add anything to it?  Take anything away?  Is that the type of family you’re hoping to create?


Like Teddy P said…

Filed under: Marriage,Post wedding — Happy Nappy Bride @ 11:28 pm
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…I think I better let it go. As much as I love looking at wedding blogs and whatnot, it may be time for me to add to my repetoire since I’m a married lady now.  Shouldn’t I be reading married chick blogs and trying to identify with those similarly mated?

I can say that it’s not as easy as it sounds.  I’ve spent a long time as Single Dawn and a few months as Engaged Dawn…now I’m embarking on life as Married Dawn.  I knew how to be Single Dawn and was just getting to navigate life as Engaged Dawn, now who is this Married Dawn gonna be?  One thing that I know for sure is that I have to switch gears from Engaged Dawn because she was Super Planner Lady who did things and informed rather than asked before doing.  What’s the diff, you ask?  Gigantic.  I may or may not have done a couple small things recently without asking and received a less than stellar reaction.

Hmmm…so I’m not the wedding boss anymore?  I’m looking forward to figuring out how The Mister and I will be together.  What’s gonna be our “thing”?  Are we going to throw sweet dinner parties and be all hip and cool?  Will we get to know all of our neighbors and have stop-and-chats in the yard?  This is a fun time to think who our little family’s going to be.