The Happy Nappy Bride

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Why marriage? July 9, 2010

Filed under: Marriage — Happy Nappy Bride @ 11:42 pm

I got my Essence mag in the mail the other day and Steve Harvey has a “What Men Think” column in there.  Someone asked about getting a man to marry them when the dude’s excuse is “marriage is just a piece of paper”.  No matter what you think of that excuse, I liked the answer:

Tell him marriage is a lifestyle, a life-altering event, a total commitment to another person and that person’s well-being.  And membership has its privileges, especially for men.  A wife commits to building, dreaming, and growing with her man, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer–something a girlfriend is under no obligation to do.  Plus, the responsibility of  being someone’s husband is rewarding and gives a man a sense of purpose unlike any other.

What do you guys think of that answer?  Would you add anything to it?  Take anything away?  Is that the type of family you’re hoping to create?


8 Responses to “Why marriage?”

  1. Sarah Says:

    I think that’s a great way to put it, but I am reluctant to agree that a man who isn’t interested in getting married should be pressured into it. That seems like a recipe for disaster.

    • I’m with you! I certainly wouldn’t want to “sell” my man on marriage…I just liked the description on marriage. It’s so often marketed as something that women want or need with no benefits for the dude. It’s good to hear the other side.

  2. The only thing I’m not following is why the privileges of marriage are specially applicable to men. If you use gender neutral terms in the next two sentences they still sound true to me!

    In other news, Janet looks very pretty.

  3. Tiffany Says:

    I do agree w/ Steve. Marriage has so many layers to it – it’s nothing like just exclusively dating someone and ACTING like you’re married. And any man that thinks marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper isn’t husband material (yet).

  4. I do like this answer very much, but feel that women (black women) need to stop looking to “gurus” like Steve Harvey for advice.

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