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misplaced July 30, 2010

Filed under: Marriage — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:46 am
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That’s Lots-O-Huggin Bear from Toy Story 3 and he may look like a kindly bear, but don’t be fooled my friends.  He’s shady, sneaky, and just plain ole mean…the antagonist of the movie.  He comes off as nice at first,  but then we find out he’s a sadistic and domineering leader.  And it’s not until we get some of his background story that we come to understand that he wasn’t always that way, but a series of hurts cause him to worry more about protecting himself than reaching out to love and care for others.*

Do you ever look at couples who have been together for a long time and wonder why they’re so unhappy?  Why they just seem to hate life and sometimes each other?  I always wonder if there was a time when they were super happy and something happened to them and it fell by the wayside.  Maybe they’re like Lots-O-Huggin and have switched to self-preservation mode…lashing out first before their partner can hurt them.  Are the happy couples the ones who are able to shake things off and not take things so personally?  Do they make the active choice not to keep track of every time their partner hurts or slights them?  The Bible says that having love for another means not keeping records of wrongs…interesting.

I know that there are a bunch of questions in there, but we’re all interested in chatting about relationships, right?  I don’t want to be in one of “those” marriages and I want to think about it now…before things start going sideways.  So what do you think?

*I promise that I didn’t ruin the movie for you!  You can still go and see this and be moved by its sweet story.
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6 Responses to “misplaced”

  1. buhdoop Says:

    I think the happy couples are more laid back and able to shake things off.

  2. Karen Says:

    I think happy couples are those who allow the other person to be who they are. They don’t try to make an outgoing person less so or try to turn {or NAG} that shy mate into being the life of the party. I guess what I’m saying is ACCEPTANCE is the name of the game.

  3. Sarah Says:

    In my experience, it’s a question of compatability. I don’t mean the “we like the same kind of movies” kind of compatability, but the kind where personalities mesh and communication styles are sympatico. When you speak a different emotional language than your partner, over time, the disappointments and anger begins to stack up until that’s all you expect or receive.


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