The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

real talk: marriage remix August 28, 2010

Filed under: Building a life,Marriage — Happy Nappy Bride @ 10:25 am
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Here’s a link to a great article titled, “8 Things No One Tells You About Marriage“…it’s a good one, check it out!  I’ve been having that I-suck-at-this-being-a-wife-thing feeling and it made me feel much better.  Here’s a quote from the end of the article (with my thoughts included):

But I am completely clear in the knowledge that many of the deepest frustrations in your relationship are an opportunity for you to confront yourself (from Dawn:  Ewww, who wants to do that?!). That can be difficult to accept (from Dawn: Ya think?!)— after all, it’s so much more comforting to keep a running tab of your hubby’s deficits (from Dawn:  Got my list right here!) and tell yourself that his failings are the only thing standing between you and a better marriage (from Dawn:  They’re not?). But if you let it, this bumpy journey toward self-awareness (from Dawn:  Self-awareness is for suckers) can be one of the more fulfilling rewards of a committed, long-term relationship — you’ll learn to love your quirks (from Dawn: My “quirks” are pretty annoying and I wonder why anyone is my friend, let alone how I got someone to marry me!) and be compassionate toward yourself (from Dawn: I could probably use a little of that compassion), just as you’re learning to do with him.

That’s the strange beauty of marriage: It’s full of hard times (from Dawn: Full?!!!!  Sheesh!) and hard lessons that no one can ever prepare you for (from Dawn:  seriously…NO ONE). But in the end, those are the things that give richness to your life together (from Dawn:  I agree.  The Mister knew about me and my quirks and still wanted to be with me.  He loves me and my annoying habits.) — and make your love even deeper and stronger than when it began (from Dawn:  I want that!!).

Anyhoo, check out the article, then come back and let me know what you thought.