The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

Disjointed and random… January 30, 2011

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…thoughts, that is.  I’m just sitting under the hair dryer after completing the weekly wash and thought I’d share a few things.

*I love it when someone says that they’re a “grown *ss man/woman…that usually means something is about to pop off.  Get the popcorn and wait for the show!

*Does anyone out there subscribe to Groupon?  I just signed up about a week ago and haven’t gotten anything even close to good…is it worth it?

*I’m sure you can figure out why I now know when I ovulate and how long my cycles are…but why am I a grown woman just figuring this stuff out??

*I bought mouthwash for $4 the other day and got a coupon for $4 back…I was embarrassingly over-the-moon at my savings.

*I love my hood dryer!

*Speaking of hair…did y’all know that I did my own hair for the wedding?  Now that I look back, that was kinda crazy.  I legitimately had no clue how I was going to style until I took it off of the rollers.  I mean, what if it didn’t set right or something?!  (you can see pics on the “About Dawn” button over there, top right)

*The Mister was listening to Public Enemy when I came home the other day…talk about a blast from the past! (Bass! How low can you go?)

*You know who was underrated from back in the day?  De La Soul…now that was some good music!

*I’ve set my hair with flat twists the last couple of weeks and really like them…wish I could get them to last longer though.  Anyone have tips?  I never leave them in for public consumption, I always wear them in a twist out.  Oh yeah, my hair’s natural.

*Thinking of running another half marathon in May…who’s with me?

I think that’s it chicas…holla back!

 

Figured it out! January 26, 2011

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Well, after many doctors visits, blood tests, and ultra sounds…the docs have figured out what’s wrong with me.  Before I tell you, I just want to warn you of the dangers of internet diagnoses.  After putting my symptoms into a search engine, I was sure I had all sorts of awful diseases and maladies.

Turns out I have IBS, or irritable bowel syndrome, of the constipation variety.  So, not a disease and not anything that can be fixed with medicine or whatever, but it’s something that I’ll have to deal with for the rest of my life.  Symptoms are: gas, bloating, diarrhea, constipation, fatigue, headaches, and backaches.  I swear to you if you put those symptoms into WebMD, you could either be pregnant or have cancer!

Anyhoo, to what I’ve got to do.  I’ve learned a lot about soluble and insoluble fiber and how they make me feel.  We think that fiber is awesome and great for us, but for me…insoluble fiber is evil!  Things like raw green veggies, carrots, and fatty foods are on the “try not to eat” list.  While solubles like bananas and potatoes are good for me.  The good news is that if I start with solubles, then I can add insolubles without all of the yucky side effects.

So that was the diagnosis.  Anyone else have to deal with this?  Any tips for me?

 

Game day January 23, 2011

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Being that I’m a Lions fan (sad, I know), I don’t really care about the games this weekend.  But the folks around here?  Cuh-ray-zee about this Bears-Packers game today.

We live in Illinois, but are only a 20 minute drive from Wisconsin…so there are a ton of both fans here.  It’s like armageddon is coming or something.  The Mister is a huge Bears fan, so you know what that means…GO BEARS!!  🙂

 

Groceries from amazon.com? January 19, 2011

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Okay people, I’m back from my existential blogging break (what am I blogging for? does anyone care? what’s the point?)…nice to see you again!

I just found out that you can subscribe to receive items from amazon.com on a regular basis…it’s called subscribe and save.  It’s kind of a crazy deal!  I actually was looking for fiber pills (yes, I’m old) and stumbled upon it…and was able to save (more than the savings you usually get from amazon) a lot of loot.

I feel like I’m a salesman for them (I’m not…but I can be bought, lol!) but I think it’s a great program.  You sign up to receive items at a regular interval you choose (every one, two, three, or six months) and your card is charged when the items are shipped.

You can get groceries, toilet paper, diapers, makeup, office supplies…all sorts of stuff!  They even have organic foods.

Anyhoo, I thought that this would be a cool way to save some loot.  You should check it out!

 

Funnies January 17, 2011

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Can you believe those people used to be newlyweds?  LOL!!

 

The posting grind January 11, 2011

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I’d love to hear from other newlyweds (it’s been almost eight months now!!) about this whole blogging thing.

Was it just me, or were we all crazy with the posts?  I always posted everyday…and didn’t think twice about it.  But now that I’m married, I don’t feel like I’ve got all that much to say.  I certainly freak out every now and then about not having mastered marriage, but generally I feel like I’m a better person than I was eight months ago.  But is that exciting enough to write about?  Would you want to read about how awesome things are?  Booooring!

I feel like I’m not enjoying talking about this phase of my life…and I want to!  I don’t want to feel like I’m waiting for the next big event…and you all know what that’s supposed to be.

Maybe I’m just being weird.

Am I the only one struggling what their blog is supposed to be and where it’s supposed to go?

 

5 Love Languages January 8, 2011

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I got a 5 Love Languages Devotional (for myself) for Christmas and I love it!  It’s a quick read since it’s a devotional and so far, they’ve been very useful for me.  Here was today’s…can’t wait to hear what you think:

“Where Change Begins”

As a marriage counselor, I’ve drawn one conclusion: Everyone wishes his or her spouse would change.  “We could have a good marriage if he would just help me more around the house.” Or, “Our marriage would be great if she was willing to have sex more than once a month.”  He wants her  to change, and she wants him to change.  The result?  Both feel condemned and resentful.

We think we see each others’ faults clearly, and we put forth a lot of effort to try to correct them.  But in reality, our own sin blinds us.  If we haven’t dealt with our own failings, we have no business criticizing our spouse’s.

There is a better way: Start with yourself.  Admit that you’re not perfect.  Confess some of your most obvious failures to your spouse and acknowledge that you want to change.  Ask for one suggestion each week on how you could be a better husband or wife.  To the best of your ability, make changes.  Chances are, your spouse will reciprocate.

All of them are good like that…and not too long.  It’s a great way to keep the main thing the main thing.  What do you do to keep your marriage healthy and on track?

 

What I’ve been up to January 5, 2011

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So this is what I’ve been up to since I posted last:

  1. I got my purse stolen on New Year’s Eve…had my driver’s license, cell phone, credit card, and car keys in it.  It was not awesome.
  2. My computer got infected with some yucky virus and proceeded to present the Blue Screen of Death.
  3. Had to go back to the DMV to get another drivers license.  The upside is that since I was just there getting a new license for the name change, I didn’t have to take a new picture.  The downside is that the picture still sucks.
  4. Canceled the credit card.
  5. Had to go and get a new cell phone.  When I went in, I was like, “I need a new phone now!”  And the lady told me I wasn’t up for an upgrade so I had to pay full price and I was like whatever.  Then she said it’d be $600 and I said, “I do not need a new cell phone now”, lol!!
  6. Anyhoo, they shipped a new phone to me and I took it in to get it all set up and I got home and The Mister said his phone didn’t work.  They’d given me his phone number.  D’oh!  So, back to the cell phone place.
  7. I went to the doctor on Monday because I’ve been feeling awful, had to go in on Tuesday for blood tests and have yet to hear back.  It’s so bad that I just start telling people about it, I have no shame.  Unfortunately, The Mister still does and I think he gets a bit uncomfortable with my “yucky belly” talk.
  8. Just picked my laptop up today and it’s all cleaned up…yay!
  9. Oh, and did I tell you that I’m getting audited?

Still with all of that going on…life is good.  I’m married to a wonderful dude, I’ve got a job I love, and we just did our holiday bills and we did good!!  Yippee!

 

I resolve… January 1, 2011

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I’ve only got two resolutions.  So without further ado *ahem*:  in 2011, I resolve:

  1. To save money. I’m not saying that I’m a money-grubber, but I want to have loads of loot for when The Mister and I get old.  I mean baller-type money.  Why?  Because I want to have money for our kids’ college education so that they can start their life without debt.  Because I want us to be comfortable and be able to travel without worry.  Because I want to leave my/his/our families money when we pass away.

    That’s easier said that done though, right?  It will mean less eating out, more nights in, using the library rather than going to Borders (one of my lifelong dreams is having a library in my house, so this is a tough one), taking my lunch every day, buying less meat, less clothes & shoes shopping.  That’s a very uncomfortable list of things that need to occur, but (as my boy Dave Ramsey says) we’ve got to lead an uncommon life now so that when we’re old, we can live an uncommon life–of comfort and wealth.

  2. To be less selfish. As amazingly wonderful and awesome as I am, I’m pretty selfish sometimes.  I’ve heard folks say that marriage is God’s way of making you a better person and I couldn’t agree more…it’s just painful sometimes.  One of my girlfriends asked why people say that marriage is hard work and I told her it’s because you realize how cruddy you are sometimes.  A good example is when The Mister and I have a tiff, I always talk about myself and my feelings…and I may eventually work around to finding out how he feels.  That’s no good because that means that I’m making him someone who’s just there to please me and make me happy.  And when he doesn’t, I’m pissy.

    Remember I’m a church girl, so I’ve got a great book that I had laying around that said something profound:  There is a false sense of self-protection in harboring an offense.  It keeps you from seeing your own character flaws because the blame is deferred to another.  You never have to face your role, your immaturity, or your sin because you see only the faults of the offender.  Therefore, God’s attempt to develop character in you by this opposition is now abandoned.

So that’s what I’ve got…to be the best wifey I can be for The Mister and to set us up to be kazillionaires in our old age.  What are your resolutions?  Even if you don’t believe in them, are there things you want to work on this year?