The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

Penultimate May 27, 2010

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So I’m getting married tomorrow.  How ’bout that?

Today was a crazy day in which nothing went as planned, but all went right.  I just kept telling myself that everything works out as it should and there’s no need stressing about things that I can’t control.  Let me tell you one thing though, having good people around you is an amazing thing.  My bridesmaids have been troopers and my mom’s been working her tail off.  I just told them that they could go home and we could start again later and they all said nope…let’s knock it out.

We decorated the reception venue today…it looks amazing, I’m so excited.  Got our nails done and had our rehearsal dinner.  Decorating the chapel tomorrow because we couldn’t get into it today.  Only thing left is to actually do this thing!

I’ve got pics to post, but my computer’s threatening to act up again.  So if I don’t post before tomorrow…wish me luck!


reception sign! May 25, 2010

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I’m having computer issues, which are quite ill-timed I must say.  So I’m trying to write this in another browser than I’m used to and I don’t know why everything is underlined.  But then again, maybe it won’t be underlined when it shows up on screen.  Whatever, if this is the worst thing that happens to me this week, I’ll be pretty fired up.

Anyhoo…isn’t this awesome?!  One of my bridesmaids made it for us when I put up a pic of a sign I saw on Etsy.  She’s bringing it with her on the plane from Arizona for goodness sakes! 

I’m excited ladies…three days!!  I’ve been running so much…I think I’ve about killed my mom with all of my running around.  Be prepared chicas, you’ll wake up tired but be motivated…you’ll run around like a crazy person…you’ll be focused on accomplishing goals…you’ll be like a super bride ninja! 

All I can say is…remember to smooch your honey and give him lots of hugs because he’ll be afraid of you and your singular wedding focus, lol!


Weddingese May 23, 2010

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So I’ve spent the majority of our engagement period trying not to become obsessed with weddings and wedding planning.  I didn’t want to be one of those ladies who stop speaking English promptly upon getting engaged.   You know who I’m talking about…those that take up Weddingese as their first language.

You: hey how’s it going?
Bride: oh my god, planning this wedding is going to be so cumbersome!

You: did you watch the final episode of Lost tonight?
Bride: no way I’ve got time to watch television, planning a wedding is so time consuming!

You: can you believe that Boston has done Cleveland and Orlando like this?!
Bride: what…are those the most popular places to get married or something?

Unfortunately during the week of the wedding, it seems unavoidable not to be all wedding all the time.  My mom’s in town and she’s fired up about the wedding, my house is getting prepped for the bridal shower (lots of weeding of the flower beds!), we did a lot of shopping today for The Mister and his peeps (gifts, ties, etc.), and I am singularly focused on my  to-do list.

It’s fun though and I’m trying my best to enjoy it like everyone says I should do.  Five days and I’ll be getting married to the best guy ever…woo hoo!!


last hurrah May 21, 2010

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So I’m thinking that this is pretty much the last time I’ll have to mess around online looking at wedding stuff.  My mom’s coming in tomorrow and the nitty gritty “to-do” list stuff will start to get done.  So here’s what I found while bopping around on Etsy.  As with all pics on this site, just click on it to go to the source page.

For those folks looking for a different kind of wedding band…

These are awesome!  Invitations and reply cards…though I don’t know in what instance you’d use them.  Too cute!

This clutch is way cute.

We’ve already gotten The Mister’s ring, obviously the invitations are finished, and I’ve got my reception clutch…but this is something I wouldn’t mind having at the house.  I can actually see this hanging in our living room in my mind’s eye…so it’ll probably be purchased at some point:


thank you’s May 13, 2010

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Like I said, we’re getting to the nitty gritty here and I’m trying to tie everything up and make sure I got it all together.  Of course we’re doing gifts for our wedding party and parents at the rehearsal dinner.    I’ve already gotten folks gifts, but I was wondering about this for an additional gift:

These are “Thanks A Lot” Girl Scout cookies.  Trust me, I can attest that they’re quite tasty and they’re also super cute.  They say “thank you” in English, French, Spanish, Chinese, and Swahili…how ’bout that?  What about those for additional gifts for the rehearsal dinner?  Or how about for those folks who are staying at our host hotel?  Maybe we could put a box in each room with a little note?  If we didn’t already have our favors together, a couple of these would make nice wedding favors too, huh?

These certainly aren’t essential or necessary…but they certainly are cute.  What say you?


my pointless worry May 12, 2010

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*Update:  just got back from my orthodontist and he asked if I’d been clenching my teeth a lot.  Ummmm…yeah.*

Sixteen days out and I’m starting to worry about things that I have absolutely no control over.  Like the weather.  I wake up in the middle of the night and fret about whether it’ll be cool and cloudy and rainy on our wedding day.  I feel like I’m justified though, because today it was forty seven degrees, windy, and rainy.  *sigh*

I also worry about folks that will be offended that they weren’t invited to the wedding.  I know I have no control over people’s feelings, but I worry still the same.   We’ve been able to invite our friends and family of course, but surely there’ll be some random cousin or long lost friend whose feelings will be hurt that we didn’t think about them…even though we hardly ever see them!

At various times during the middle of the night I’ll worry about (in no particular order): if people are looking at our wedding website?, do they notice the map that’s on there?, are they able to access our registry?, will we be able to talk to all of our guests at the ceremony and reception? will people remember that our wedding is on Friday and not Saturday?


So this is what two weeks out looks like, huh?


Buff bride! May 11, 2010

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So here we are, two and a half weeks out and I’m feeling pretty good about my wedding workout that I’ve put together for myself.  Not only have I lost seventeen pounds over the last three months, I’ve gotten pretty buff and I’m excited about our honeymoon.  I’m past getting into shape so that the dress zips up (that was at about ten pounds lost), now I’m trying to work it out so that The Mister is like, “whoa”!

The other day at the gym a lady asked me what I was training for and between huffs and puffs and very unladylike sweat, I said, “my honeymoon”, lol!  Between the stepmill (which is a machine of torture I’m sure), my interval circuits (pure hell!), and a step class at my gym (hard, but so much fun), I’ve managed to put in some good work.  And according to this month’s Psychology Today, if I feel better about myself, then the bedroom activities will benefit.  So like I said, I’m looking forward to the honeymoon!

I’d be totally disingenuous if I said I started working about for any sort of altruistic reasons, but I think there have been a few unintended consequences.  I’m ripped, confident, fit, diligent, focused, and energetic.  Have you experienced any positive side effects from the cliched bridal weight loss?  Have you set any fitness/weight loss goals for your wedding?  How’s it going?


respondez, s’il vous plait! May 3, 2010

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This pic is from the invitation that I keep stashed away in my bag…yes, I have an invitation stashed away for whenever I feel like taking a peek at it.  What?  Is that weird?  I really like our invites and I’m super excited to be getting married, so whenever the feeling comes over me, I take it out, take a gander, then put it back in its envelope.

Anyhoo, we’re getting close to our RSVP deadline time, which of course means that I’m gonna have to become Magnum P.I. and track folks down.  So much of the process of planning a wedding is done by one person (me!) or at most, a few people…but once those RSVP’s are released, all bets are off!  Things are out of my control and I’m not happy about it, lol!  I don’t know about you, but it seems that the process has fallen into five different categories.

The go-getters.  We sent our invites out on a Monday and started getting replies in by Wednesday.  I thank these people not only because they allowed me to check something else off of my to-do list, but because it’s super exciting to receive the cards in the mail.  The early ones set my heart at ease because that meant that there weren’t any problems at the post office that I didn’t know about.  Now we’re at the point where it’s just fun to see who’s gonna be coming.

The hand-offs. They live close by, we happened to stop by, so they give us the reply card.  Now, don’t get me wrong…I’d rather have the card than not have the card.  But we spent money on stamps for every single reply card and it seems like such a waste to not put it in the mailbox.  Why must they rob me of the joy of seeing that wonderful copper envelope and ripping it open to see who it’s from?  Whyyyyyy?!!

The add-ons. We’re super excited they’re coming, they’re fired up to come…along with a plus one.  The problem is they weren’t given a plus one.  So here’s the process from there:  I check my guest list spread sheet just to be sure they’ve RSVP’d with the incorrect number.  I grumble to myself and anyone within earshot that they know they weren’t supposed to write that number down.  Most times it’s someone whose phone number I don’t have, so I’ve got to track that down so that I can call them and give them my “our reception venue is really small but if someone RSVP’s no, then I’ll try to slide your person in but right now we don’t have room for them” speech.  Those convos are awkward and typically very short.

The add-ons…part two. This is the way to request an additional person in my humble opinion.  They get their invite in the mail, see that it’s for a number that won’t work for whatever reason and they get in contact with me right away.  One reason for an add-on could be:  hey, me and my bf are coming up for the weekend and I’d already invited him to your wedding before I knew that I didn’t have a plus one.  He’s coming up to meet my fam for the first time and I thought it’d be fun if he met some of my old college friends.  If you can’t swing it I totally understand, but if you can I’d be super fired up. That seems reasonable, right?  And I appreciate the heads up rather than just writing in whatever number they wanted to, hmmmpft.

The MIA’s. Whether they’re in the wedding, so they don’t think they’ve got to send their card in (they do) or they think that we “know” that they’re coming (we don’t) or whether they just plain forget (it happens)…we’re missing a lot of reply cards.  We’ve made it so easy for everyone…there’s already a stamp on there for goodness sakes.  *sigh*  I plan on calling my fam and begging them to send in their cards so that it doesn’t seem like such a waste of money for those custom stamps.  I also plan on shaming those folks who forgot about sending it in to put it in the mailbox.  I know that they’re gonna want to tell me the answer rather than send it in, but I’ll tell them how much I love seeing those envelopes in the mail and hopefully that’ll work.

Are you having RSVP troubles?  How are you tackling it?


cloudy with a chance of… May 2, 2010

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…showers!  A few of my friends that I play in a volleyball league with surprised we with a shower on Friday.   I had no idea until I walked in and the lady whose house we were at was like, “glad you could make it since this is a shower for you.”  I had no idea!  We’d been talking about getting together for a while and it never dawned on me that they’d set something up.  Anyhoo, here are some pics:

The super yummy cake:

A beautiful orchid that just needs ice cubes to survive, notice the “to-go” cake slices in the background:

And these are wine glasses and a “Bride” cosmetics case:

I actually took pictures holding the contents, but they turned out butt ugly so…delete!  It’s like they never existed.  Though I can’t tell you how excited it made me to be taking crappy *ss pictures just a few days before our wedding.  Maybe I’m just getting them all out of my system so that every one on the wedding day is gorgeous?

Anyway, this was super nice because these were ladies that I played with pretty regularly, but just wasn’t able to find room for at the reception and they still wanted to throw me a little shindig which I thought was amazing.  Two of the ladies are already married and one is getting married in January so of course there was lots of talk about the menfolk.  Like wedding planning, everyone has a different and very strong opinion about what it takes to be successful.  This has been one of the fun things about getting married for me…receiving both solicited and unsolicited advice from the marrieds.

So we sat around eating, drinking, laughing, and doing drugs (I kid, I kid!  Just making sure you were paying attention, lol!)  it was a lot of fun.  Mostly because they thought enough of me to do it.

Have you had a shower yet?  Was it fun?  Any good advice?