The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

Favorites August 12, 2010

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My work life is about to really get fired up here pretty soon.  Between that and starting a work blog about coaching female athletes and team building, I’m crazy busy…and oh yeah, I just got married and would like to have time to spend with my new husband.  So I’ve given myself a post schedule in order to not drive myself (and others!) crazy.  From now on, I’ll post new content on Tuesdays, Thursdays, & Saturday and/or Sunday.  That was just an informational sidenote for y’all.

I’ve been wanting to talk to you all about some of my favorite wedding posts for a while and have finally compiled my list…so here we go.  Happy clicking!

Black brides: Dirty Little Secret was about the absent women of color in the cool (non WIC) blogs & the first Tale of the Tape about the lack of women of color in bridal magazines.

Marriage: Both of these were written well before we got married and I still like them.  Check out John Lennon was about imagining a different way to be married and Dear Married People about honesty in talking about the institution.

Wedding Industrial Complex (WIC): Sanity was about my conspiracy theory that the wedding vendors and bridal magazines are in cahoots, and I Think I’ve Figured It Out talked about not getting caught up in the pretty pictures and feeling badly about your wedding.

My dad: As you guys know, my dad passed away in 2008…about a month after I met The Mister so they never met.  Here’s a post I wrote before the wedding, Dads, and one I wrote afterwards…on Father’s Day, Daddy’s Girl.

Haters: Every bride planning a wedding has the nay-sayers.  I didn’t talk about them a lot, but Things was dedicated to them.

Looking back, I’m happy I did this stuff: Custom stamps!  People loved them, I loved them, and I wrote about them here and here.  Honoring my father during the ceremony…Giving Honor talked about that.  My ceremony reading was a Nikki Giovanni poem called Resignation, which talks about being an independent woman who falls (completely and totally) for her man and realizes what it’s like to put someone else’s needs ahead of her own.

DIY: I’m not crafty or do-it-your-selfy, but we did do a couple of things that turned out pretty well…and saved a ton of loot.  I made eight cake stands for less than $20 using stuff from the dollar store.  Have you priced out cake stands lately…they’re crazy expensive!  We did our own invitations (STD’s, invites, reply cards, inserts, envelopes, ceremony programs…everything) and they were pretty awesome, in my opinion.  Finally, my bridesmaids did all of the flowers for the ceremony and reception…and they were gorgeous!  I estimate that we saved about $2500 just by doing these things.

Things I fretted over that I shouldn’t have: Having cocktail napkins with our names and wedding dates on them…I still have a whole mess of those things left!  *shaking head*  Though the ribbon that’s on this same post, Weddingy, was pretty awesome.  We used it to hang our pew balls (flowers) and on our reception favors.  And here I openly acknowledge my worry as pointless…but continue to worry, lol!

Week of: My favorite post from our wedding week.  Mostly because I was dizzy with pure, 100% fortified tired.  It’s when I acknowledged that I was a little batty…Weddingese was posted the Sunday before our Friday wedding.

Wedding picture: This one isn’t even from our photographer, but one of my bridesmaids.  It’s our first dance and shows how happy I was to marry The Mister.  I just couldn’t (or wouldn’t) stop looking at him.

After the wedding: I took two cell phone pictures of The Mister and I’s stuff together and I like looking at them both.  The first was our rings sitting together and the other is my wedding dress and his wedding suit hanging together on the same hanger…very powerful images.

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good peeps July 21, 2010

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I know I showed you all the sign one of my bridesmaids made for our reception, but I didn’t tell you the rest of the story.  I think it’s important because it really characterizes how everyone was super helpful and awesome on the day of the wedding…and how that spirit of helpfulness really helped The Mister and I have a stress-free wedding day.

So when she showed me the finished sign while telling me the story of how the airline almost didn’t let her bring it on the plane because they thought it could be used as a weapon, I was already thinking, “this would look amazing in my flower bed out back.”  As a matter of fact, I’m pretty sure I actually voiced that thought.

She left early the day after the wedding and I was bummed because I thought the sign had been left at the reception site.  After our breakfast with the folks from out of town, we got home and low and behold…there it was.  In the flower bed.  Pointed at our house just like I’d imagined out loud a couple of days before.

The same could be said for The Mister’s dudes…they were amazing.  We were still chatting with folks after the ceremony when we saw them breaking down the chuppah and tossing it like we’d planned.  And after the reception, while I was sweating and boogying on the dance floor, I saw the dudes were taking the gifts and extra booze back to our house out of the corner of my eye.

To me, that’s the wonderful part of weddings, the wonderful spirit of people who want to help.  I’m so happy to think that we started our married life with help from those folks who love us and care about us.  I mentioned to The Mister the other day that I wonder about the connection between how couples plan weddings and how they plan marriages and lives together.  Neither one of us is arrogant enough to think that we can do this thing on an island…away from people who care for us.

So our wedding was a microcosm of the life we want to lead.  A life where friends and family are there for us when we need them…not only because we asked, but because that’s what they wanted.  With no coordinator, the wedding wouldn’t have gone as smoothly without us leaning heavily on friends and fam…and I have a feeling that we will be able to count on them for a long time.

 

recaps: the honeymoon July 7, 2010

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Hey y’all…just realized that I didn’t talk about our honeymoon.  It was a blast and I’d highly recommend going very soon after your wedding if you can.  Personally, it was nice to separate from “the wedding” and go and be a couple because as soon as we got back, everyone wanted to talk about “the wedding”.  Which is great, of course, because I loved our wedding…but remember we’ve all talked about how we want to focus on our hubbies and our relationships, right?  So if you can…leave, lol!  But if you can’t, just try to limit “the wedding” talk because ole boy was probably getting sick of it before the wedding, so he’ll certainly be over it after you’re actually married.

Anyhoo, here’s some pics from Puerto Vallarta.  Here’s one from the window of our first hotel (we stayed in two while we were down there), not bad huh?:

A tasty beverage I had while we were there…the drink was very happy to see me:

The Mister went snorkeling in between these rock formations.  Why didn’t I go?  Because our tour guide made such a big deal about needing to be a strong swimmer or else  you’d get pulled off by the currents.  Ummm, no thanks pal…I’ll just stay on the boat and take pictures:

We went to a dinner theater thing that was super fab…here’s one of the characters that came by while we were eating:

Here we are on the final zip of our zip line tour.  We were racing…The Mister won (and they even gave me a push):

Where are you going/did you go on your honeymoon?  Did you go right after the wedding or wait a while?  Would you go back?

 

recaps: the reception July 4, 2010

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We just got back from another wedding…one that cost approximately five times more than ours did.  Seriously.  I’m pretty sure that even if I were ballin’ like a rock star, I wouldn’t spend that kinda loot.  Maybe I would if Oprah was my mom or something.  But it was a gorgeous wedding…to each their own, as they say.

Anyhoo, final recaps then this blog will turn into a trip down first year of marriage lane.   Sharing furniture and space and loot, oh my!  I will say that while this first month and a little bit has been amazing (!!!), we are different people with different ideas about how things should be done…which has given us a couple speed bumps.  Okay, back to the recaps.

Our reception was fantastic!  We got there right when it started so I was pretty fired up about that.  Food was tasty, the open bar was a hit (folks drank the Red Stripe like it was the most super wonderful thing they’d ever tasted), our special dances were pretty special, and the peeps loved my mom’s cheesecakes.

Our first dance was to The Blower’s Daughter by Damien Rice…click here to watch the video.  I’d told the dj not to play the whole song, but he did and I’m so glad.  The chorus says “I can’t take my eyes off of you” over and over…and we stared at each other and sang.  I really couldn’t take my eyes off of him.

My sorority sisters serenading me…

The Mister and I listening to toasts with the guests.  I like the pic because you really see how beautiful the mansion is…

We were starved by the time we got to the reception site and had spoken to folks…plus we’d already had a couple of tasty beverages and needed some food.  So we didn’t wait to eat with the peeps, we went to the kitchen and chowed down.

A fun dance we did with The Mister, my brother, and our flower girl…to Apache by the Sugar Hill Gang:

Alrighty ladies…that’s the end of the recaps.  Next up, I’ll regale you with tales of the man trying to hold me down…or why is it so hard to change your name?!!!

 

recaps: the ceremony June 30, 2010

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We got married and it was glorious.  That’s really all that I can say.  I loved marrying The Mister and I loved that all of my friends and family thought that it was important enough to come and share that with us.  I smiled really hard all day long.  Like painful cheeks smiling because I was just really happy to marry him…he’s the bees knees.

I can go on like that forever, so instead…here’s more pictures.

My superfly shoes…

Waiting for The Mister to finish up his posed pics…

My brother and I about to walk down the aisle…

At the altar…

After the ceremony…

 

recaps: getting ready June 27, 2010

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My getting ready process was easier and shorter than a lot of ladies I think.  Mostly because I did everything, except makeup, myself.  So after we got the chuppah and flowers together at the chapel, I went and got changed, got my makeup done, did my hair, and waited for the ladies to get back.

My wait was a little longer than anticipated because the dudes were running late.  Why were they running late?  Well, because The Mister is allergic to nuts.  My mom made (fabulous) cheesecakes with nuts on them.  The Mister touched said cakes while dropping them off at the reception site, then touched his eye…which promptly swelled up shut like someone had sucker punched him.  Cue the groomsmen searching for Benadryl and you see why were running a tad behind.

Anyhoo, I didn’t know any of this, so we were just chillin’ and waitin’.  Here’s a couple pics from our photographer:

The photographer took tons of getting ready pics, but how many of those do you really need to see?

All day long, I was pretty happy…content almost.  I was relaxed and I feel like I was able to take in the day…which was good, because I’d wound myself up into a tight ball of nervous worry the day before, lol!  By the time we finished all of the pre-ceremony pictures, guests were starting to arrive and it was pretty awesome to see folks streaming in.  The ladies took care of whatever last minute things I needed (I got a just-in-case mint and asked for some deodorant…you know, just in case), shooed The Mister away when he tried to come into the ladies’ room.  It was as stress free as completely altering your life can be.

 

recaps: the day of June 26, 2010

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Would you go to the place you work with a headscarf on your head?  Well, you would if you had wedding work to do and didn’t want to mess up your hair before the ceremony.

So yes, I did go to work in a headscarf and I got the same response universally:  1) shock at the way I looked and 2) but you’re “the bride”!  *sigh*  But I’ve still got fully functioning limbs and they’ve got stuff to do!  Anyhoo, the ladies had put together five bouquets the night before (ours plus one for the winner of the anniversary dance), but still had the pew balls, corsages, and boutonnieres to knock out.  Me?  I was on chuppah duty…luckily the sweetie pie of one of the bridesmaids was able to help me out.

After that, the ladies went to get their hair done and I went to get myself together and grab some chow.  I was not hungry, but determined to eat something.  Then we were off to get our posed up pics taken.  We took the majority of photos before the ceremony and afterwards spent about thirty minutes taking pics and then headed off to the reception.  It was pretty important to us to arrive to the reception site on time and we were able to do that.

Anyhoo, we’ve finally gotten our professional pics back, so I’ll be posting those soon.  The last bit left to do with the photogs is to pic the pictures for the parent albums.  Can you believe that we’ve been married almost a month already??  Crazy business!

The ladies getting their hair done:

Here’s a pic of the aisle with the pew balls and the chuppah up on the stage: