The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

Home is where the heart is November 14, 2010

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Have you and your honey discussed the holidays?  How are you guys planning on handling them?

I wonder if it matters how extravagant your fam is about the holidays…like, do you just chill or are they a big to-do?  For both The Mister and I’s families, it’s pretty chill.  Like we go to somebody’s house, make a plate, eat/chat/nap/repeat.  My family’s all over the country, so it’s nice that there’s not a big agenda because we don’t see each other very often and we just want to catch up.

How do your families react when you tell them that you won’t be around for Thanksgiving/Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanazaa?  I could use some tips for softening the blow, because I’m clearly doing it wrong, lol!  My fam is always quietly ticked with me when I give them the news.


Keep it tight November 10, 2010

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Looks matter!  I know that may seem quite obvious, but it seems like so many times folks are trying to convince us ladies that we shouldn’t be so worried about what’s on the outside, but what’s on the inside.  Well, let me tell you how happy I was that my latest issue of Psychology Today addressed this issue.  Here’s the cover…a bit over the top, no?

Anyhoo, how about this line from the article: It turns out that the real beauty myth is the damaging one [some] feminists are perpetuating—the absurd notion that it serves women to thumb their noses at standards of beauty. Love it!  I’m not saying that I run around the house in a ball gown, quite the opposite actually.  My job enables me to wear shorts and a tshirt on most days.  But I do try to keep my hair cute and makeup on…and I’m currently increasing my nighttime wardrobe options.

3 interesting things from the article, The Truth About Beauty

  • How we look matters (duh): She talks about how dressing as if you’re “just the girl to come clean out your sewer line!” (lol!!) isn’t the way to find a partner who is visually stimulated (read: men)…but neither is wearing twenty layers of makeup and dressing like a hussy.
  • Intellectualism isn’t the antithesis to beauty:  Visit any college campus and there’s always the battle between the young ladies who are dressed to the nines and wearing heels to class and the women who wear Birkenstocks and don’t shave their armpits.  It’s always seemed like the smart girls were too cool to care about looks, now thanks to my Psychology Today, that myth has been shattered.
  • The ole bait ‘n swtich: You know where I’m going with this.  The lady who stayed fine while she was dating her man has turned into Lurch now that she’s married.  Home girl used to work out like a champ, ate healthily, and dressed great.  Now…not so much.   Now she’s running around looking a HDM:  Hot Dang Mess.

Anyhoo, this one was good for me to read.  I’ll blame my tshirt and shorts habit on my job…but season will be over soon.  I’d rather not pick up another excuse but rather stay cute for my honey.

What do you guys think?


slip & slide November 4, 2010

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Those are our rings and in May of 2010, they fit great.  Now…not so much!  The problem with summer weddings in the north is that we have to wear those same rings in the winter…and our fingers shrink due to the cold.

I was putting on my clothes the other day and my ring went flying off.  The Mister is afraid to wear his to work because it’s super loose.  *sigh*

Has anyone else had this problem?  What did you do?


Do you really want to be married? October 17, 2010

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It’s sometimes what I think when I hear some of my friends loooong list of demands desires in a mate.  A friend of mine posted this on Facebook and I thought it was too funny…it’s called Black Marriage Negotiations!  They’re literally at the board room table hashing it out!  But, and maybe I’m wrong, I don’t think that this type of attitude is solely in the Black community.  I’ve got plenty of friends who aren’t Black with their hands on their collective hips talking about what they want in a man.

Anyhoo, I’m not saying ladies need to pick up dude from off of the exit ramp holding up his cardboard sign…but there’s a lot of good men out there.  And remember, in order to demand perfection…you’ve got to be perfect yourself.

Here’s the video…hit me up in the comments with what you think.


Free weekend! October 14, 2010

Filed under: Home life — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:16 pm
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Since I work in athletics, nights and weekends are always busy for me…except this weekend.  I’m working tomorrow night, them I’m off Saturday and Sunday.  You have to understand that I haven’t two days off in a row since early August…so I’m stoked!  The Mister will be gallivanting around Madison because one of his groomsmen has tickets to the Ohio State/Wisconsin game (yes, he’s going to a football game featuring the #1 team in the country…jerk!), so I’m on my own on Saturday night.

So ladies…what should I do?



I heart football September 28, 2010

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The Mister is a huge Chicago Bears fan, so we went out to watch the Bears Packers game last night and I was trying to be a gamer and wear the Bears colors (orange & blue)…but he accused me of wearing yellow.  Does that look like yellow?  Hmmmpft!  The funny part was that while I was giving him grief about being color-blind, the first thing someone says to me was some comment about me wearing Packers colors.  What?!!  That’s orange, right?!

Then I got to thinking about what The Mister’s poor football life has turned into since he watches games with me.  I love the sport because I’m a coach and I enjoy watching the tactical nature of sport, but I don’t know the game in and out or anything.  So these are things I said last night while watching the game:

  • Oh my goodness, that dude is huge!  *poking with finger to get his attention*
  • Lovie needs a size bigger pants.
  • That dude sucks, why don’t they take him out?
  • Dear God, that dude is gigantic!! *The Mister rolls his eyes at this one and reminds me that they are football players*
  • Why does he keep making that same mistake?
  • Why don’t they just tackle him, he’s standing right there?

And this was just last night…every weekend there are a new series of questions for him.  He hasn’t stopped watching with me yet, so I guess that’s a good sign!

Do you watch with your honey?


Money: pile it, eat it, or bury it? September 19, 2010

Filed under: Building a life — Happy Nappy Bride @ 2:03 pm
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It’s that time of the year…squirrels everywhere.  I mean everywhere!  And I just think they are too cute.  Whenever I walk around, I see squirrels darting around, eating acorns, burying acorns, saving acorns…they are on a mission.  And I can’t be the only one who wants to run around after them, right?  I love watching them and seeing their cute, furry little tails flicking in the air.

But they got me to thinking the other day that I need to be more like them.  I’m a saver by nature, but I’ve gotten away from it since the wedding.  Pre-wedding, I had five figures saved up for a rainy day (because I’m inexplicably worried about said day of rain), but post-wedding?  I’ve only got a couple pennies clanging around in there.  The Mister and I have to get to work and be like those squirrels!  We should still be able to spend some money like the squirrels still eat their acorns…but they never stop putting nuts away for the future.  Some of our money has to be buried in investments and annuities not to be touched for a while, but some of it has to be piled up (still using our squirrel metaphor here folks) in a savings account for easy access.

I think we’ve got a plan together, but this is a tough time to start thinking about saving.  Just coming off of our wedding and honeymoon…and Christmas is literally right around the corner.  *sigh*  What do you and your honey do about rainy days?