The Happy Nappy Bride

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Not a paid post…just a good find March 15, 2011

Filed under: Advice — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:50 am
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Hola ladies!  I just found this great site called, where you can buy services for $5.  I wish I would have known about this site back when I was planning our wedding, I would’ve been all over that!

How about this for a Save The Date with you and your honey’s name on it? It’s only five bucks!  Seller: comfy

Or what about those folks who want logos made up for invitations and whatnot?  How about this one?  Seller: pahome

How about your honeymoon?  You’ve booked it, researched it, and are fired up about going!  What if you could contact someone where you’re going and get the inside scoop on the haps in that city.  Well, you can at Fiverr!  This seller (donnak) will give you a customized itinerary of all the best secret spots of Sonoma County wine for $5.

And for you entrepreneurial bride-to-bes out there, you can sell space/write ups/ads on your website like seller heavenstorm does…she’ll put up a link on her site for five bucks.

Now, I haven’t used this site or bought anything, but it seems like a great idea!  I’m sure like any site that has an aggregate of sellers, some are better than others.  Considering the cost of putting together a wedding, this may be a smart way to go for some things.

I’m actually planning on using them for some design stuff for things I’ve got going on at work.  What’s the worst that could happen?  I’m out $5…worth a try, in my opinion!


Coupledom: The Financial Peace Edition December 2, 2010

Filed under: Building a life — Happy Nappy Bride @ 2:47 pm
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So, one of the coolest things The Mister and I have done together is take Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University class through our church.  Not only is it financially sound, it forces us to work together on budgeting, writing bills, and expenses.  Finances…together. As my girl Martha would say, it’s a good thing.

Anyhoo, the basis of the class is his baby step process of getting out of debt.  This class is good even if you don’t have debt, it’s nice to start off a marriage with the same idea of asset management.  Plus, if you’re like us, we cleaned out our savings for the wedding and honeymoon, so regaining that loot is a big part of the plan.  Here are the steps:

  1. $1000 in an emergency fund.  That way, when life happens, you won’t be thrown off of your saving/getting out of debt plan.
  2. Debt snowball. Attacking your debt, one at a time, from the smallest to the largest.  Pay off one debt, then once it’s paid off you can use that money to pay off the next.  And on and on.  Another way to help pay off the debt: get another job!  That’s a bummer, but Dave says that if your actions have gotten you into a financial mess, then your actions have to get you out.  Income is huge for this step.
  3. 3-6 months of expenses.  Think about all of the folks who’ve been foreclosed on or lost their jobs or whatever other awful things can happen to people…what if they had that money in the bank?  That’s a heck of a lot of money though, so we’ve got some work to do!
  4. Invest 15% in retirement accounts. These baby steps are meant to take place one after another.  Meaning you’re not supposed to be investing while you’re getting your emergency fund together or working your debt snowball.
  5. College funds. Save for your kids’ future so that they don’t have to go into debt just to get an education.
  6. Pay off your house early. If you’ve got a 30-year mortgage, switch it up to a 15…then pay it off early!! (Yippee!)
  7. Build wealth and give. Dave is all about making money and getting into a completely comfortable, stable, and well-off place in life.  But not just to brag about it, but to better your family situation…then better someone else’s!  Like the Bible says: give and it will be given to you!

Have you guys done anything like this with your hubby’s?  Will it effect how you spend for the holidays?


frugal DIY bride? May 18, 2010

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So it seems that if you’re an indie bride, a frugal bride, or just a want-to-be-your-own-person bride…then you’re super crafty.  You’ve gocco’d (whatever that is!) napkins, made your own reception food, spent your wedding morning baking wedding pies, created/designed/printed your own stationary…*sigh* I’m out of breath!

Well, I am an indie bride!  I most certainly am a frugal bride.  And I’m a want-to-be-my-own person person…not just bride!  But what I’m not?  Crafty.  It’s not that I don’t have the crafty artsy gene…it’s that I don’t have the corresponding desire, lol!  I felt like our wedding was a shot to support local  businesses who do all of that stuff a lot better and a lot more efficiently than I could have…except in this one case.

I (along with a super handy coworker) am building a chuppah for our ceremony.  What’s a chuppah?  A wedding canopy that has Jewish origins which represents the couple’s future home together, God’s protective covering, and a place where deceased ancestors are said to gather.  You can see pictures here.

Anyhoo, as soon as The Mister asked me to marry him, I realized that I wanted to have one of these and that it would be much cheaper if I made it myself…and we all know I love cheap, lol!  So here’s what we bought today at a supply store:

PVC that’ll be the base for the chuppah…4-8′ sections, 4-5′ sections:

Connectors for the PVC:

The spray paint for the PVC to make it look more like wood…PVC is so much cheaper than wood!:

You can see what that “stone” paint looks like on these planters.  They’re the super cheap plastic ones, but they look much snazzier with that paint on them!:

When we put everything together, I’ll put up a pic of the finished project.  What’s not pictured here is the three bags of cement that we’ll use for the base and my grandma’s afghan that’ll go on top.  I’m excited about this project because it’s something that I’ve wanted from get go…and because it connects my past (ancestors who’ve passed away) with my future as a Mrs.

Have you DIY’d?  How did it go?  Did you enlist help or did you try it all on your own?


tlc May 14, 2010

Filed under: Conspiracy theories — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:38 pm
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So I don’t have cable.  So I don’t get to watch these shows most times…except when I stay in a hotel.  Which I am now.  I’m amazed at these shows (not that I’m gonna  stop watching!) and the extravagance, the crazy expectations, the stupefying budgets.  I’m not going to get on my soapbox here, but I wonder how much these bridal shops are slipping TLC to get brides and brides-to-be thinking that a “cheap” dress costs $3,000?  And how much are the designers slipping the bridal shops to be featured on television?  Just wondering.


Weddzilla post May 4, 2010

Filed under: Weddzilla — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:43 am
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Do you find yourself comparing your wedding to other ladies’ weddings?  Or fighting off “well-meaning” relatives who offer up way too much unsolicited advice?  Well, check out this post as I try to keep things in perspective.  I mean, the one thing that unites all brides (cheap wedding or extravaganza)  is that we believe in the power of the ceremony and of gathering our friends and family around us as we transition into a new phase of life.  Right?  Right, so go check it out.


Weddzilla post April 30, 2010

Filed under: Details,Weddzilla — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:05 am
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I was excited about how our invitations turned out.  They were unique, classy, and fun.  You can click over here to see how they turned out and how we saved money.


wedding crazy April 21, 2010

Filed under: Saving money — Happy Nappy Bride @ 1:09 pm
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I’m in a group called Toastmasters, which is a leadership and speech-giving group.  It’s pretty cool and I enjoy putting my thoughts together and plus I talk for a living, so I can always use some help there.  Anyhoo, I’m giving a speech next week and it’s called, “How To I Do”, and it’s about how to get married frugally and sanely.  I wanted to post this section from my conclusion for those of you out there who’ve heard that you’ve got to spend $31,000 to have the “average” wedding.  The speech is only supposed to be five to seven minutes so I couldn’t get too in depth, but these were my top things:

The most important thing that you can do is figure out how to whittle your reception costs down as they generally make up almost half of your wedding costs.  The Mister and I did this by finding a reception venue that will let us bring in our own caterer and bartender.  Next on the cost cutting extravaganza was finding a wedding dress at a reasonable price. Whether you find a test dress like I did or find a used dress online, there are dresses out there that are gorgeous and couture, but won’t break the bank.  In terms of the smaller things like photography, favors, and flowers, finding someone who’s looking to build a client base and buying wholesale are a couple of ways that we’ve managed our bottom line.

Frugal ladies unite!  What are some ways that you’ve saved big money while planning your wedding?


weddzilla post April 18, 2010

Filed under: Weddzilla — Happy Nappy Bride @ 5:28 pm
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I’ll bet people told you that you have to invite folks to your wedding as a pair or you have awful etiquette and will go to wedding Hell.  Well, that’s not what Martha says…and I think we all know that Martha’s on top of it!  Don’t believe me?  Check this out!


transportation…again March 22, 2010

Filed under: Details — Happy Nappy Bride @ 4:32 pm
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**Update: the Jaguar dude emailed me back and was like, I misquoted you…it’s $190.  I guess that settles it, huh?**

Since The Mister informed me that he wanted to have a car and driver take us from our ceremony to our reception, I’ve been hard at work searching out our options.  Since we’re doing it, I wanna do it up right!  We’ll be in this vehicle for the half an hour it’ll take to get from our chapel to the reception site…and maybe it can be in a few pics?

Here are my top two options and I’m looking for opinions here please!  The Rolls Royce is choice #1.  I like it because it’s an old school looking car…but it’s also more expensive than option #2.  $400 will get me the car and includes gratuity, red carpet, champagne w/engraved glasses that’ll have our names and wedding dates on them.

Then there’s option #2…the Jaguar.  It’s pretty fancy and sporty, I’m wondering if The Mister will like this one better because of that.  It’s iPod capatible and if we want, we can watch a DVD on the way to the reception in there too!  It’s $250 including driver gratuity, red carpet, “just married” signs, and champagne.

So what do you think?  Old school fancy or modern fancy?


from here to there March 18, 2010

Filed under: Details — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:23 pm
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I was sitting here chatting with The Mister and was saying how I thought we could just catch a ride to our reception and here’s the rest of the story as Paul Harvey would say:

The Mister:  I thought we were getting a car and driver.

Me: Well, I was thinking we could just hop in with someone…we’re all going to the same place anyway.

The Mister: But I thought we said we would get a car and driver.

Me:  Yeah, that’s what we said initially, but we could save money here and just set it up to catch a ride down to the mansion.

The Mister:  It’s just that I really wanted a car and driver.

Me:  Yeah?  So you want me to get a car and driver?

The Mister: *nodding*

So we’re getting a car and driver…he’s persistent, that guy!  I went on a job interview once and they sent a car and driver…I felt pretty baller, I’m not gonna lie.  We’ll get something like this hopefully:

What are you and your guy doing for the big day?  Are you going low-key and thumbing it to your reception with some family members or are you getting a limo?:

Or how about the ever popular party bus?  This one got ruled out for us because everyone’s married with kiddos…we’d need a school bus to take everyone!

This is what I wanted initially, until I realized that I’d have to offer up my first born for how much it’d cost…but you wouldn’t be able to tell me nothing if we rolled up in this vintage hotness:

So what are y’all doing?  How long are you keeping the car/bus/limo?  Will it just drop you off at the reception site and that’ll be that?