The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

Today’s a big day! October 10, 2010

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Lots of weddings today…congratulations ladies!  I can’t wait to see your pics!!!


recaps: the ceremony June 30, 2010

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We got married and it was glorious.  That’s really all that I can say.  I loved marrying The Mister and I loved that all of my friends and family thought that it was important enough to come and share that with us.  I smiled really hard all day long.  Like painful cheeks smiling because I was just really happy to marry him…he’s the bees knees.

I can go on like that forever, so instead…here’s more pictures.

My superfly shoes…

Waiting for The Mister to finish up his posed pics…

My brother and I about to walk down the aisle…

At the altar…

After the ceremony…


recaps: the day of June 26, 2010

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Would you go to the place you work with a headscarf on your head?  Well, you would if you had wedding work to do and didn’t want to mess up your hair before the ceremony.

So yes, I did go to work in a headscarf and I got the same response universally:  1) shock at the way I looked and 2) but you’re “the bride”!  *sigh*  But I’ve still got fully functioning limbs and they’ve got stuff to do!  Anyhoo, the ladies had put together five bouquets the night before (ours plus one for the winner of the anniversary dance), but still had the pew balls, corsages, and boutonnieres to knock out.  Me?  I was on chuppah duty…luckily the sweetie pie of one of the bridesmaids was able to help me out.

After that, the ladies went to get their hair done and I went to get myself together and grab some chow.  I was not hungry, but determined to eat something.  Then we were off to get our posed up pics taken.  We took the majority of photos before the ceremony and afterwards spent about thirty minutes taking pics and then headed off to the reception.  It was pretty important to us to arrive to the reception site on time and we were able to do that.

Anyhoo, we’ve finally gotten our professional pics back, so I’ll be posting those soon.  The last bit left to do with the photogs is to pic the pictures for the parent albums.  Can you believe that we’ve been married almost a month already??  Crazy business!

The ladies getting their hair done:

Here’s a pic of the aisle with the pew balls and the chuppah up on the stage:


frugal DIY bride? May 18, 2010

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So it seems that if you’re an indie bride, a frugal bride, or just a want-to-be-your-own-person bride…then you’re super crafty.  You’ve gocco’d (whatever that is!) napkins, made your own reception food, spent your wedding morning baking wedding pies, created/designed/printed your own stationary…*sigh* I’m out of breath!

Well, I am an indie bride!  I most certainly am a frugal bride.  And I’m a want-to-be-my-own person person…not just bride!  But what I’m not?  Crafty.  It’s not that I don’t have the crafty artsy gene…it’s that I don’t have the corresponding desire, lol!  I felt like our wedding was a shot to support local  businesses who do all of that stuff a lot better and a lot more efficiently than I could have…except in this one case.

I (along with a super handy coworker) am building a chuppah for our ceremony.  What’s a chuppah?  A wedding canopy that has Jewish origins which represents the couple’s future home together, God’s protective covering, and a place where deceased ancestors are said to gather.  You can see pictures here.

Anyhoo, as soon as The Mister asked me to marry him, I realized that I wanted to have one of these and that it would be much cheaper if I made it myself…and we all know I love cheap, lol!  So here’s what we bought today at a supply store:

PVC that’ll be the base for the chuppah…4-8′ sections, 4-5′ sections:

Connectors for the PVC:

The spray paint for the PVC to make it look more like wood…PVC is so much cheaper than wood!:

You can see what that “stone” paint looks like on these planters.  They’re the super cheap plastic ones, but they look much snazzier with that paint on them!:

When we put everything together, I’ll put up a pic of the finished project.  What’s not pictured here is the three bags of cement that we’ll use for the base and my grandma’s afghan that’ll go on top.  I’m excited about this project because it’s something that I’ve wanted from get go…and because it connects my past (ancestors who’ve passed away) with my future as a Mrs.

Have you DIY’d?  How did it go?  Did you enlist help or did you try it all on your own?


kid accessories May 6, 2010

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Stuff for the flower girl and ring bearer…haven’t really thought about it all that much.  So I hopped on Etsy today and saw some cute stuff.

This is cool…plus we could keep it afterwards:

I really like all of these…except they seem a little too flowery.  Maybe this can be my statement on the gender neutrality of inanimate objects?

I am loving those pillows!!  My idea for The Mister was to have him give his daughter (who’ll be our flower girl) a ring at the ceremony too.  Maybe we can attach her ring to one of these cutie patootie pillows and he can give it to her at the altar and then the ring bearer can carry a disc like the one on top with our rings on it.  Does that make sense or is it too complicated?  Plus I’m a little nervous about putting our rings in the care of five-year-olds.

Anyone else have ideas?


two left feet April 29, 2010

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I got these at Walgreens.  When you wear heels, they’re supposed to shift the weight from the ball of your feet to make it more evenly distributed.  I’m up for trying anything that’ll make heels more comfy for me!  I wear gym shoes or flats most of the time, so rocking heels while being comfortable is essential.  Though I’m still planning on wearing the kitten heels at the reception so that I can boogie and be pain free.

How are you dealing with the heels conundrum?  Are you planning on wearing yours all day or just the ceremony?


so much happier

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The Mister giggled when he saw this…look at the big pic.  She looks so sad and then at the bottom…tattoo’s all covered up, happiness!  Too funny!  As usual, when we laugh about something silly…we become silly, I made up a conversation that the picture lady probably had with herself:

Boy, that dragon tattoo seemed like such a great idea at the time, but now that I’m getting married, it just kinda bums me out.  I sure do wish there was a way to cover it up for my wedding day.  *sigh*  Oh wait!  What’s this?  Tattoo coverup?!!  Yay…now I’ll have a fantastic and carefree wedding day!


something old April 20, 2010

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When my mom came over this weekend, she brought this ring along with her.  It belonged to my grandma and mom says she used to wear it all the time.  This is why our wedding is important to me.   Not because of my dress (which looked superfly when I tried it on this weekend…woot, woot!) or the decorations or the food or dancing.  But because my mom’s been holding on to my grandma’s ring since she passed away seven years ago so that I could wear it at my wedding.  How awesome is that?


the ceremony April 8, 2010

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I don’t know about you, but I feel like I’m putting more thought into the reception than  the wedding…it’s the biggest expense of getting married after all.  But today I started putting together our ceremony script and it’s kinda crazy to read all of those phrases that I’ve heard so many times on television with The Mister and I’s names attached.  It’s definitely profound and moving to thing about what we’re about to do…so we’ll go pretty traditional with our ceremony.  Maybe we’ll write our own vows, but the rest will be played pretty straight.

I found this funny comic though when I was looking for vow examples:

Are you guys going traditional or something different?  Tell me, tell me, tell me!


Vows March 26, 2010

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In the early stages of planning, I cut out a clipping of vows that I liked from a magazine…can’t remember which, remember I own over thirty five wedding magazines.  It’s in one of them!  Then The Mister came home from work one day and someone was talking about their vows…and ours were crazily similar.  He was talking to a Hindu dude and these are the vows that they say.  If you click on the link, you’ll see that my hackles were probably raised a bit by the first vow…but the style, the back and forth, and even the sentiment of the remaining vows were the same.  So we’ll come up with some that reflect who we are without being too weird.

You can click on the pic and see what it says for yourself, but here it is, Heidi & Nigam’s (whoever they are, lol!) vows:

Both:  I promise…
Heidi: Not to talk when you are driving and we are lost.
Nigam: To help you find your glasses when you can’t see.
Heidi: To make everyday a fresh start.
Nigam: To dance on command like a trained monkey to the theme music for House.
Heidi: To be compassionate.
Nigam: To try to see things from your point of view.
Heidi: To support you in whatever you choose to do.
Nigam: To support you in whatever you choose to do.
Heidi: To try to see the big picture.
Nigam: To try to focus on the details.
Heidi: To stand by you.
Nigam: To pick you up whenever you fall.
Heidi: To lean on you when I need help.
Nigam: To ask you for help.
Heidi: There is nothing you can’t tell me.
Nigam: I promise to let you in.
Heidi: To grow with you.
Nigam: To do something special for you everyday.
Heidi: To try not to hold grudges.
Nigam: To watch craptastic movies with you.
Heidi: I promise to love you.
Nigam: I promise to love you.
Both: And if you break any of these promises, I promise to forgive you and move on with our life together.

I really like the idea of these, the conversational tone, the promises to each other.  I think we’ll probably pass on the jokey stuff and stick with the sappy, sentimental stuff though.  Have you thought about vows?  Are you going traditional or writing your own?  I’ve heard bad stories of TMI with folks who write their own, so I’m trying to be cognizant of that as we think about writing ours.