The Happy Nappy Bride

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The Pink Elephant February 13, 2011

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As much as I think that folks aren’t wondering about this, because it shouldn’t be all that important to them…they do!  What am I talking about?  The baby question, of course!  Case in point, I had a convo (if you’d call it that) with a work friend that I hadn’t seen in a few months and this is how it went?

Me: Hey!
Work Friend: Hey! *hugs*
Me: How have you been?!
WF: Are you pregnant yet?
Me: *crickets*

Ummm, wow…that was not what I was expecting to hear so soon into the conversation.  At least butter me up a little bit and pretend that you want to know how I’ve been before you ask that question.  I’m sure you recently married ladies get that all of the time.

Soooo, what’s the plan for human creation?  Hit me up in the poll and then I’ll write about the results in a couple of days!

 

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So…are you and hubs thinking about getting preggers? December 18, 2010

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Okay ladies, I know we’ve all heard the questions a million times…and it’s annoying.  But, I know a lot of us do want to add onto our little mini families.  I’m going to keep it real, I’ve got baby fever (and this’ll probably be the last time you hear that from me because it’s so cliche…okay, let’s continue) and I’ve been poking around the interwebs and have found some info.  There’s probably more you can do, but I’m sure you can’t go wrong if you follow these…

6 things to do if you’re planning on getting pregnant*

  1. Timing:  This article I linked above says that you’ve got to clean up your diet for three months to a year.  That’s a long time…it surprised me.
  2. Weight: Being overweight isn’t ideal and they advise weight loss.  But also, they say that extreme weight loss (like, say,for a wedding…sound familiar anyone?) “from crash dieting can deplete your body’s nutritional stores, which isn’t a good way to start a pregnancy.”
  3. Nutrition:  Lots of fruits and veggies, not a lot of white foods (sugar, rice, potatoes, etc.), lean meats, fish and dairy…easy on the red meat.  I also read somewhere that letting yourself get too hungry is bad also…something about some hunger hormone that’s released that blocks another preggo hormone.
  4. Vitamins. Take your prenatals.  Folic acid is supposed to ward off birth defects…which is important for us over-30’s!
  5. Alcohol.  Here’s their advice:  “cut out or only occasionally drink alcohol.”  Bummer, I know.
  6. Caffeine. The biggest bummer of them all…no coffee.  Too much caffeine apparently could result in low birth weight or miscarriage.  Eek!

Oddly enough, I found this info because I’ve got some tummy issues that have seriously forced me to change my diet…then I found out that pregnancy requires a similar diet.  Two birds with one stone.  Okay, this is our first and last chat about babies.  Any other advice?  Ladies who’ve got kiddos, did the article leave anything out?

*I’m not pregnant.

 

kid accessories May 6, 2010

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Stuff for the flower girl and ring bearer…haven’t really thought about it all that much.  So I hopped on Etsy today and saw some cute stuff.

This is cool…plus we could keep it afterwards:

I really like all of these…except they seem a little too flowery.  Maybe this can be my statement on the gender neutrality of inanimate objects?

I am loving those pillows!!  My idea for The Mister was to have him give his daughter (who’ll be our flower girl) a ring at the ceremony too.  Maybe we can attach her ring to one of these cutie patootie pillows and he can give it to her at the altar and then the ring bearer can carry a disc like the one on top with our rings on it.  Does that make sense or is it too complicated?  Plus I’m a little nervous about putting our rings in the care of five-year-olds.

Anyone else have ideas?

 

and baby makes three January 23, 2010

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I would assume most of us soon-to-be-wives have thought about the wee ones.  Am I wrong?  That’s me and my dad up above…how cute am I?!  This is what I think of when I think of kiddos.

I was listening to NPR the other day and they were talking about family and there was a young husband and wife on talking about their son Tom who was born transgender and preferred to be called Thomasina.  The pain in their voices was palpable. They were expecting one thing and got something altogether different.

Have you and your fiance talked about kiddos?  What happens if they’ve got some sort of birth defect?  I always am amazed at how few children are born and everything turns out fine.  There are forty six chromosomes and if just one of them is wonky, something could happen.  How would you and your future hubby handle this?  Or what if you and the future Mr. You have trouble having kids at all…that would be tough, no?  Is adoption an option?  Surrogacy?  Empty nest?  These are things we don’t talk about before we get married…maybe we should.

I can’t imagine the strain that things like this would cause on a marriage.  I suppose that the “for better or worse” they talk about, huh?  How have you guys talked about family planning?