The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

tech overload July 29, 2010

Filed under: Building a life — Happy Nappy Bride @ 4:08 pm
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Over at A Simple Marriage, they’re talking about getting rid of television for a tighter relationship with your honey.  The benefits are pretty obvious: more family time, better relationships, more time for working out, even community service, etc.

I think for The Mister and I, it’d have to be getting rid of phones and laptops, TV’s just too easy.  Who needs television when everything I need is either on my phone or computer?

What do you think?  Would y’all be able to do this sort of thing?  Would you be able to take a technology break?  How long would you and your sweetie pie last?

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good peeps July 21, 2010

Filed under: Building a life,Wedding recaps — Happy Nappy Bride @ 7:37 pm
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I know I showed you all the sign one of my bridesmaids made for our reception, but I didn’t tell you the rest of the story.  I think it’s important because it really characterizes how everyone was super helpful and awesome on the day of the wedding…and how that spirit of helpfulness really helped The Mister and I have a stress-free wedding day.

So when she showed me the finished sign while telling me the story of how the airline almost didn’t let her bring it on the plane because they thought it could be used as a weapon, I was already thinking, “this would look amazing in my flower bed out back.”  As a matter of fact, I’m pretty sure I actually voiced that thought.

She left early the day after the wedding and I was bummed because I thought the sign had been left at the reception site.  After our breakfast with the folks from out of town, we got home and low and behold…there it was.  In the flower bed.  Pointed at our house just like I’d imagined out loud a couple of days before.

The same could be said for The Mister’s dudes…they were amazing.  We were still chatting with folks after the ceremony when we saw them breaking down the chuppah and tossing it like we’d planned.  And after the reception, while I was sweating and boogying on the dance floor, I saw the dudes were taking the gifts and extra booze back to our house out of the corner of my eye.

To me, that’s the wonderful part of weddings, the wonderful spirit of people who want to help.  I’m so happy to think that we started our married life with help from those folks who love us and care about us.  I mentioned to The Mister the other day that I wonder about the connection between how couples plan weddings and how they plan marriages and lives together.  Neither one of us is arrogant enough to think that we can do this thing on an island…away from people who care for us.

So our wedding was a microcosm of the life we want to lead.  A life where friends and family are there for us when we need them…not only because we asked, but because that’s what they wanted.  With no coordinator, the wedding wouldn’t have gone as smoothly without us leaning heavily on friends and fam…and I have a feeling that we will be able to count on them for a long time.

 

the power of food July 20, 2010

Filed under: Building a life,Meals/Meal planning — Happy Nappy Bride @ 1:56 pm
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At some point I wrote about creating a life with The Mister and actively thinking about the life we’d create together.   I got some grief about wanting to be “traditional” in the sense that I’d do the cooking.  Let’s get one thing straight.  The Mister was single for a long time before me and he didn’t die of starvation, so he knows how to cook…sorta.  But it’s not his forte.  He’s good at tons of things, but this just isn’t one of them.  It does happen to be an area that I excel in and happen to love doing.

I’ve always loved cooking.  When I was in college, our fraternity brothers would come over and I’d pull some chicken out of the freezer and get to frying.  And when I lived in Houston, I’d have holiday parties all the time where people were only required to bring themselves and a happy attitude.

For us, part of the life we’d like to create is having people over and entertaining.  I’ve already said that I love to cook, so that’s a no-brainer.  And The Mister is fantastic with people (and I’m just alright), so we’re the perfect party-having couple.  People always seem to gather around food.  To just sit and talk or tell funny stories or play games or just catch up.  I love the feeling that food brings to people.  Like many women before me, sharing my food and my home with you is my way of showing love.  I want folks to be comfy and at home when they’re at our place.

And even when it’s just our little family, I want everyone to feel loved through our food.  I try for most of what we eat to be organic because I believe it’s better for us…there’s nothing that’s just out of a box on our table.  The act of eating together is pretty important to us in terms of creating a family.  The Mister’s daughter will set the table and he’ll help me get everything on the table.  One of us will say grace and we’ll chow down.  And life goes a little slower and I like that…we listen to music instead of the television, we sit and chat rather than looking at our phones or laptops…we connect with each other.

Have you thought about the life you and your hubby would like to create?  Why is it important to you?

 

Like Teddy P said… July 9, 2010

Filed under: Marriage,Post wedding — Happy Nappy Bride @ 11:28 pm
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…I think I better let it go. As much as I love looking at wedding blogs and whatnot, it may be time for me to add to my repetoire since I’m a married lady now.  Shouldn’t I be reading married chick blogs and trying to identify with those similarly mated?

I can say that it’s not as easy as it sounds.  I’ve spent a long time as Single Dawn and a few months as Engaged Dawn…now I’m embarking on life as Married Dawn.  I knew how to be Single Dawn and was just getting to navigate life as Engaged Dawn, now who is this Married Dawn gonna be?  One thing that I know for sure is that I have to switch gears from Engaged Dawn because she was Super Planner Lady who did things and informed rather than asked before doing.  What’s the diff, you ask?  Gigantic.  I may or may not have done a couple small things recently without asking and received a less than stellar reaction.

Hmmm…so I’m not the wedding boss anymore?  I’m looking forward to figuring out how The Mister and I will be together.  What’s gonna be our “thing”?  Are we going to throw sweet dinner parties and be all hip and cool?  Will we get to know all of our neighbors and have stop-and-chats in the yard?  This is a fun time to think who our little family’s going to be.

 

married 1st! July 5, 2010

Filed under: Community,Holidays — Happy Nappy Bride @ 5:21 pm
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Today we had our first married get-together…yay!  The Mister’s fam and a few friends came over and had din din at our place. Here’s the tasty menu:

Nibbles:
veggies & dip
cherries
chips
chocolates

Main meal:
grilled chicken
bbq ribs
hamburgers
squash
mac & cheese
baked beans

Desserts:
strawberry shortcake
pistachio salad (provided by an aunt)
homemade vanilla ice cream (provided by the same aunt)

Here’s some pictures!  I didn’t get pics of the ribs, but they were for real…my father-in-law said that I should figure out how to get paid for them.  No pics of the shortcake either, but it was tres tasty.

 

Penultimate May 27, 2010

Filed under: Pre-wedding — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:58 pm
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So I’m getting married tomorrow.  How ’bout that?

Today was a crazy day in which nothing went as planned, but all went right.  I just kept telling myself that everything works out as it should and there’s no need stressing about things that I can’t control.  Let me tell you one thing though, having good people around you is an amazing thing.  My bridesmaids have been troopers and my mom’s been working her tail off.  I just told them that they could go home and we could start again later and they all said nope…let’s knock it out.

We decorated the reception venue today…it looks amazing, I’m so excited.  Got our nails done and had our rehearsal dinner.  Decorating the chapel tomorrow because we couldn’t get into it today.  Only thing left is to actually do this thing!

I’ve got pics to post, but my computer’s threatening to act up again.  So if I don’t post before tomorrow…wish me luck!



 

frugal DIY bride? May 18, 2010

Filed under: Black weddings,Community — Happy Nappy Bride @ 6:02 pm
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So it seems that if you’re an indie bride, a frugal bride, or just a want-to-be-your-own-person bride…then you’re super crafty.  You’ve gocco’d (whatever that is!) napkins, made your own reception food, spent your wedding morning baking wedding pies, created/designed/printed your own stationary…*sigh* I’m out of breath!

Well, I am an indie bride!  I most certainly am a frugal bride.  And I’m a want-to-be-my-own person person…not just bride!  But what I’m not?  Crafty.  It’s not that I don’t have the crafty artsy gene…it’s that I don’t have the corresponding desire, lol!  I felt like our wedding was a shot to support local  businesses who do all of that stuff a lot better and a lot more efficiently than I could have…except in this one case.

I (along with a super handy coworker) am building a chuppah for our ceremony.  What’s a chuppah?  A wedding canopy that has Jewish origins which represents the couple’s future home together, God’s protective covering, and a place where deceased ancestors are said to gather.  You can see pictures here.

Anyhoo, as soon as The Mister asked me to marry him, I realized that I wanted to have one of these and that it would be much cheaper if I made it myself…and we all know I love cheap, lol!  So here’s what we bought today at a supply store:

PVC that’ll be the base for the chuppah…4-8′ sections, 4-5′ sections:

Connectors for the PVC:

The spray paint for the PVC to make it look more like wood…PVC is so much cheaper than wood!:

You can see what that “stone” paint looks like on these planters.  They’re the super cheap plastic ones, but they look much snazzier with that paint on them!:

When we put everything together, I’ll put up a pic of the finished project.  What’s not pictured here is the three bags of cement that we’ll use for the base and my grandma’s afghan that’ll go on top.  I’m excited about this project because it’s something that I’ve wanted from get go…and because it connects my past (ancestors who’ve passed away) with my future as a Mrs.

Have you DIY’d?  How did it go?  Did you enlist help or did you try it all on your own?