The Happy Nappy Bride

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my pointless worry May 12, 2010

Filed under: Pre-wedding — Happy Nappy Bride @ 8:46 pm
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*Update:  just got back from my orthodontist and he asked if I’d been clenching my teeth a lot.  Ummmm…yeah.*

Sixteen days out and I’m starting to worry about things that I have absolutely no control over.  Like the weather.  I wake up in the middle of the night and fret about whether it’ll be cool and cloudy and rainy on our wedding day.  I feel like I’m justified though, because today it was forty seven degrees, windy, and rainy.  *sigh*

I also worry about folks that will be offended that they weren’t invited to the wedding.  I know I have no control over people’s feelings, but I worry still the same.   We’ve been able to invite our friends and family of course, but surely there’ll be some random cousin or long lost friend whose feelings will be hurt that we didn’t think about them…even though we hardly ever see them!

At various times during the middle of the night I’ll worry about (in no particular order): if people are looking at our wedding website?, do they notice the map that’s on there?, are they able to access our registry?, will we be able to talk to all of our guests at the ceremony and reception? will people remember that our wedding is on Friday and not Saturday?

*sigh*

So this is what two weeks out looks like, huh?

 

jitters? April 12, 2010

Filed under: Staying sane — Happy Nappy Bride @ 2:29 pm
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Check out this article from over at The Knot, it’s about getting cold feet.  It’s one of those things that we don’t really talk about, but as I read blogs and hear the stress oozing from them…I wonder if this is what’s going on.  There’s more to the article than this, but these are the one’s that seem to keep coming up.

Personally…I’m sick, Aunt Flo is coming next week, work has picked up, and oh yeah…we’re getting married next month!  So I’m sure I’ve been extra fun lately.  I think I’m past the freaking out with every minor disagreement (oh my God how will this last if we’re arguing about this little thing?!!!!!), though it may rear its ugly head again soon as the calendar flips over to May.  Check out this article and let me know what you think:

Got cold feet? Are you experiencing a chilling fear as you realize that you’re about to spend the rest of your life with the same person? Don’t worry, it happens. Most of the time, this freak-out period just means you’re suffering from a case of pre-wedding jitters.

Pre-Wedding Jitters: Reasons NOT to Call it Off

Fed Up Forever?
Is she or he getting on your nerves? Do you suddenly have a low threshold for that messy desk, those unwashed dishes, or that loud sneezing? It’s okay. The engagement period is not always happy camping — pre-wedding stress can make you more irritable, impatient, and easily annoyed. If, out of the blue, his or her friends start bugging you and those habits are driving you berserk, take a deep breath. Recognize that you’re extra moody — and do your best to keep things in perspective.

Pre-Party Panic
Two weeks before the big bash, you find that you’re panicked — you’re sweating, shaking, losing sleep, and not eating. While this is not healthy, it is normal. You’re about to make a commitment for the rest of your life and you’re staring that notion right in the eye. Try your best to relax and be healthy. Your nerves will eventually return to a normal state.

I liked this article because I can try to prepare myself for the freakout and if it comes, I’m not surprised…and if it doesn’t…  Ha!  You better believe I’ll be on here bragging about what a cool customer I am.  So ladies, if you’re freaking out…or just snippy and driving your fiance crazy, you have an excuse!