The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

1920 November 2, 2010

Filed under: Community — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:00 am

I don’t take for granted that women fought long and hard so that we could drag our butts to the polls.  So that we could have a voice…some sort of say in our lives, now and in the future.  Please go vote y’all and have your say!  As I read on Twitter this morning:  don’t let today’s lazy become tomorrow’s crazy!

My election ticket:

And…the sticker!  I luv the sticker!

Now go handle your business!

P.S.  I was worried about voting with the recent name change and all…I had NO problems!  I was in the system and was good to go.


And you are? July 5, 2010

Filed under: Post wedding — Happy Nappy Bride @ 4:10 pm

With all of this traveling that The Mister and I’ve been doing, answering the question of who I am is easier said than proven.

Remember our travel schedule May 31 – June 10 in Mexico, June 15 – 20 in Arizona, June 28 – 30 in Wisconsin working a camp, and July 1 – 3 in Baltimore at a wedding.  So not a lot of days to get the house cleaned up of all our gifts and wedding stuff, send out thank you cards, try to organize two people’s stuff in one place…oh, and try to enjoy being married.  Also not a lot of time to try to get this name change business together.

So lots of folks get married right?  Like all the time huh?  And according to that Psychology Today article I quoted before, 83% of chicas change their names, which means that those powers that be should know how to do this right?  So why is it so hard?  First things first, please understand that you’ve only got thirty days after your wedding date to change your benefits info at work…that’s huge.  I didn’t know this.  How?  I don’t know, but I didn’t so I figured that maybe you didn’t either.

Anyhoo, trying to get a copy of our marriage certificate has been more difficult than finding a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.  They don’t take checks…I haven’t been in town…so I’ve been married over a month and still don’t have one in my hot little hands.  I need that certificate for everything else to flow.  FYI, check out the Thirty Something Bride’s post on name changing and save your money with those companies that claim to help.

Limbo…it’s not just a pole dance (hee, hee), but a place where newlyweds live when you know that you’ve got a new name (yippee!) but have absolutely no way to prove it.  Here’s an example from this past weekend.

*I was coming back from shopping because The Mister had wedding work to do*

Me:  Hi there!  Can I have another key made please?  We can’t find our other one.
Lady at the counter:  Sure, what’s your name and room number?
Me: *give her the info*
Lady at the counter:  Great…I just need to see some id!
Me: *heavy sigh, because I’ve been thru this before* Okay, so the name doesn’t match because we just got married.
Lady at the counter:  *making funny face* Do you have any id with your new name on it?
Me: *tell her that whole story I just detailed for y’all up there* No, but we are married I promise.
Lady at the counter:  Do you know what card he used to make the reservation?
Me: *slumping shoulders* No.
Lady at the counter:  How about his address?
Me:  *excited because I actually know this information*

That was just to get a hotel key made…ugh!  Did anyone else deal with this craziness or am I just functioning at a very low level, lol!


On the road again July 2, 2010

Filed under: Marriage — Happy Nappy Bride @ 7:03 am
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So we’re on another trip. *sigh* This is the fourth trip we’ve taken since getting married and now I just want to be home. Though we’re at a wedding this weekend and it’s been cool to see a different approach…also to not be worried about details and just be a spectator.

Anyhoo, I was reading Psychology Today on the plane over here and they had a blurb in there about marriage and name changes. The title is Name That Bride, Taking your man’s name can be costly. Here’s a snippet: “Summer is wedding season, and for those brides still debating whether to take their husbands names, consider this: Women who do, or who take a hyphenated one, are judged to be more dependent, less intelligent, more emotional, less competent, and less ambitious than those who keep their names.”

So ladies, what do you think? Why are these perceptions out there? Is it that marriage and name changing are old fashioned and “traditional”? Is it that our society places little value on those “traditional” qualities? Knowing this information, will you still stay the course with your name change plans?


this should be easier June 25, 2010

Filed under: Details — Happy Nappy Bride @ 9:33 pm
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Let’s take a break from recaps for this public service announcement: you only get 30 days after the wedding to change your benefits information with human resources.

Okay, carry on.