The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

recaps: the reception July 4, 2010

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We just got back from another wedding…one that cost approximately five times more than ours did.  Seriously.  I’m pretty sure that even if I were ballin’ like a rock star, I wouldn’t spend that kinda loot.  Maybe I would if Oprah was my mom or something.  But it was a gorgeous wedding…to each their own, as they say.

Anyhoo, final recaps then this blog will turn into a trip down first year of marriage lane.   Sharing furniture and space and loot, oh my!  I will say that while this first month and a little bit has been amazing (!!!), we are different people with different ideas about how things should be done…which has given us a couple speed bumps.  Okay, back to the recaps.

Our reception was fantastic!  We got there right when it started so I was pretty fired up about that.  Food was tasty, the open bar was a hit (folks drank the Red Stripe like it was the most super wonderful thing they’d ever tasted), our special dances were pretty special, and the peeps loved my mom’s cheesecakes.

Our first dance was to The Blower’s Daughter by Damien Rice…click here to watch the video.  I’d told the dj not to play the whole song, but he did and I’m so glad.  The chorus says “I can’t take my eyes off of you” over and over…and we stared at each other and sang.  I really couldn’t take my eyes off of him.

My sorority sisters serenading me…

The Mister and I listening to toasts with the guests.  I like the pic because you really see how beautiful the mansion is…

We were starved by the time we got to the reception site and had spoken to folks…plus we’d already had a couple of tasty beverages and needed some food.  So we didn’t wait to eat with the peeps, we went to the kitchen and chowed down.

A fun dance we did with The Mister, my brother, and our flower girl…to Apache by the Sugar Hill Gang:

Alrighty ladies…that’s the end of the recaps.  Next up, I’ll regale you with tales of the man trying to hold me down…or why is it so hard to change your name?!!!


Yay!! May 19, 2010

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It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!


two left feet April 29, 2010

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I got these at Walgreens.  When you wear heels, they’re supposed to shift the weight from the ball of your feet to make it more evenly distributed.  I’m up for trying anything that’ll make heels more comfy for me!  I wear gym shoes or flats most of the time, so rocking heels while being comfortable is essential.  Though I’m still planning on wearing the kitten heels at the reception so that I can boogie and be pain free.

How are you dealing with the heels conundrum?  Are you planning on wearing yours all day or just the ceremony?


fantasy April 27, 2010

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On July 25th, when The Mister asked me to marry him, the whole wedding thing seemed like it was sooo far away.  All of the planning wasn’t really real, because the wedding was sooo far away.  Well now it’s only thirty one days away (!!) and the fantasy’s gone and the work has started.  No more looking at blogs and magazines for inspiration or to drool over other people’s weddings.  Now it’s about getting RSVP cards back, sending out invites for the rehearsal din din, working with my maid of honor (who’s out of state like all of my fam) on the bridal shower, vendor meetings, watching my savings account dwindle…the nuts and bolts of planning a big shindig.

Now I’m just sitting back and hoping that all of that planning will pan out…that folks have a good time, drink lots of beer, shake their collective tails, and eat until their bellies pop.  I also hope that I don’t sweat too much, cry too much, or drink too much.

That’s not too much to ask is it?  Has your fantasy collided with reality yet?


vendor meetings April 23, 2010

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According to our wedding website, we’ve got thirty five days ’til our wedding.  Because of that, I’ve got vendor meetings on my to-do list.  Yesterday, The Mister and I met with our caterer and the manager at our reception site so that we could discuss how things are gonna be laid out and everything.  Our reception’s going to be at a mansion rather than a banquet hall, so the planning was a little more involved I think.  Here’s the layout:

The top part of the paper is where the entrance is and as you can see, each room will have food in it.  But the caterer’s doing a progressive meal.  So appetizers will be in the front two rooms, then they’ll get taken away and dinner will be in the middle two rooms, then that’ll get taken away, then “nibbles”‘ and dessert will be in the back room.  There’ll be sit down tables interspersed with bistro height table all in the hopes of encouraging folks to mix and mingle.  The dj will set up in the front (top) left room in a bay window and the bar is in the back room, which will mainly be a transition room with just a couple of tables.  The back room also has the bathrooms and leads to the super sweet patio.

Anyhoo, it was very exciting to walk through the mansion again…it’s truly gorgeous and I know the guests will love it.  Next up:  meet with the photographer, dj, and baker.


weddzilla post April 18, 2010

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I’ll bet people told you that you have to invite folks to your wedding as a pair or you have awful etiquette and will go to wedding Hell.  Well, that’s not what Martha says…and I think we all know that Martha’s on top of it!  Don’t believe me?  Check this out!


reception yard signs April 6, 2010

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These weren’t in the original budget plans, but so many folks that we talk to (who are from this area!) have no idea of where our reception venue is…so I started thinking about putting signs out front so that people wouldn’t miss it.  Remember that we’re having the reception in an old Victorian mansion and it sits way back from the street, so it’s not immediately obvious that it’s there.

Here’s some options:

I think I like the second one best.  They use recycled wood which is cool, but I don’t know if it fits the venue.  The last one is a screen shot from a print shop, it’ll be the most expensive…the other two are from Etsy.  What do you think?  Should I get a yard sign for the reception?  Which is your favorite?