The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

marriage stats September 30, 2010

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Obviously I believe in marriage and what it stands for, that it’s powerful and wonderful and a benefit to individuals, couples…even society.  But check out this article, “Census data: Marriages in 2009 at record low level“.  It talks about a bunch of other stuff besides marriage (income level, housing report, etc.), but I think the stuff about getting hitched is interesting.

“The new figures show, among other things, that marriages fell to a record low level in 2009, with just 52 percent of adults 18 and over saying they were joined in wedlock, compared to 57 percent in 2000.  On the issue of marriage among adults 25-34, roughly 46.3 percent reported they had never wed. It was the first time the share of unmarried young adults exceeded the 44.9 percent who were married.  The recession took a dramatic toll on the institution of marriage in America last year, new figures show, with weddings for people 18 and older at the lowest ebb in over a hundred years.”

Why aren’t folks getting married?  I’m not gonna lie, I’m surprised.  You’d almost think that the marriage rate would be higher in a recession…but I guess people don’t have to get married to live together and share bills and whatnot.  They don’t talk about cohabitation, but I’d be willing to be that that’s way up!

Did you and your honey consider waiting out the bad economy to get married?  I wonder how many dudes are ready to ask their girlfriend’s to marry them, but are sweating out the recession.  I talked a lot during my planning phase about the cost of weddings, it’d be interesting to see what the economic impact of not having all of those weddings is having.  Our small budget wedding cost $11k…and a month later we went to one that cost $50k.  Those are tangible additions to a sputtering economy.  So I guess what I’m saying is, go on and get married…it’s good for the country!


just added… July 11, 2010

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…some wedding pics to the “about” tab there on the top right…go check ’em out!


recaps: the ceremony June 30, 2010

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We got married and it was glorious.  That’s really all that I can say.  I loved marrying The Mister and I loved that all of my friends and family thought that it was important enough to come and share that with us.  I smiled really hard all day long.  Like painful cheeks smiling because I was just really happy to marry him…he’s the bees knees.

I can go on like that forever, so instead…here’s more pictures.

My superfly shoes…

Waiting for The Mister to finish up his posed pics…

My brother and I about to walk down the aisle…

At the altar…

After the ceremony…


recaps: getting ready June 27, 2010

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My getting ready process was easier and shorter than a lot of ladies I think.  Mostly because I did everything, except makeup, myself.  So after we got the chuppah and flowers together at the chapel, I went and got changed, got my makeup done, did my hair, and waited for the ladies to get back.

My wait was a little longer than anticipated because the dudes were running late.  Why were they running late?  Well, because The Mister is allergic to nuts.  My mom made (fabulous) cheesecakes with nuts on them.  The Mister touched said cakes while dropping them off at the reception site, then touched his eye…which promptly swelled up shut like someone had sucker punched him.  Cue the groomsmen searching for Benadryl and you see why were running a tad behind.

Anyhoo, I didn’t know any of this, so we were just chillin’ and waitin’.  Here’s a couple pics from our photographer:

The photographer took tons of getting ready pics, but how many of those do you really need to see?

All day long, I was pretty happy…content almost.  I was relaxed and I feel like I was able to take in the day…which was good, because I’d wound myself up into a tight ball of nervous worry the day before, lol!  By the time we finished all of the pre-ceremony pictures, guests were starting to arrive and it was pretty awesome to see folks streaming in.  The ladies took care of whatever last minute things I needed (I got a just-in-case mint and asked for some deodorant…you know, just in case), shooed The Mister away when he tried to come into the ladies’ room.  It was as stress free as completely altering your life can be.


check out our poster June 22, 2010

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I just think this is the cutest thing ever!  I got it on Etsy from ellothere and here’s a proof of a poster they made for us:

Click on it to see the cuteness!!  I’m super excited about this…and for those of you wondering, yes we live in Illinois but we got married in Wisconsin.  Yippee!!  *clapping*  *dancing*


recaps: the ladies

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Keep in mind, awesome readers, that when you read recaps (mine or otherwise), you’re only getting what we want to give you.  If I wanted to tell you everything, I would have told you about the one thing The Mister was in charge of (an essential piece involved in obtaining the marriage certificate) that came scarily and unnecessarily close to not getting done in time for the wedding.  But I didn’t tell you about that because I want him to like me after I press “publish”, lol!  But I’ve been looking forward to writing this post since the Thursday before our wedding and I was surrounded by the most fabulous ladies ever.

Anyhoo, I don’t know if y’all remember Tina Fey’s skit (read it here if you’d like) from a few year’s ago, “B*tch is the New Black”, but it was an ode to ladies (mistakenly called b*tches by dudes that are afraid of strong women) who know how to work it out.  She talks about a lot of funny stuff, but the line that gets me is: “b*tches get stuff done!”  I love it!  Probably because I fit the bill…and because the ladies I had around me before the wedding got. stuff. done.

From the lady from my job that coordinated the rehearsal dinner, wedding, and reception flawlessly to my mom to my bridesmaids…I was awestruck at the power of women.   Not just that we did a lot, but just the ladies themselves.  I consider myself to be lucky to know these ladies who are running things in their careers.  Smart, beautiful, wise…do-ers, not talkers.  I have to tell you that I felt like a weight had been pulled off of my shoulders when I saw them, because I knew that I could trust these ladies to help me enact my vision for the wedding.

I can’t wait to tell y’all about all of the cool stuff that we did, but for now, just know that the people you choose to surround yourself with before your wedding are vital to your sanity.  Remember we’d talked about the stress of the day, the fact that the day is “big” even if you’re trying to downplay it, that you’ll be nervous?  So the last thing you need is for the folks close to you to raise your stress level.

Have you thought about your wedding day “helpers”?  Are they friends or family or both?  Hopefully you’ll be as lucky as I was!


Our story on Black Voices!! June 14, 2010

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Check it out:  Black Voices on Love

There’s a picture of a random couple, but then one of us down below.  FYI, this is a repeat of the AisleDash story.