The Happy Nappy Bride

About weddings. About relationships. About the first year of being married.

reception sign! May 25, 2010

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I’m having computer issues, which are quite ill-timed I must say.  So I’m trying to write this in another browser than I’m used to and I don’t know why everything is underlined.  But then again, maybe it won’t be underlined when it shows up on screen.  Whatever, if this is the worst thing that happens to me this week, I’ll be pretty fired up.

Anyhoo…isn’t this awesome?!  One of my bridesmaids made it for us when I put up a pic of a sign I saw on Etsy.  She’s bringing it with her on the plane from Arizona for goodness sakes! 

I’m excited ladies…three days!!  I’ve been running so much…I think I’ve about killed my mom with all of my running around.  Be prepared chicas, you’ll wake up tired but be motivated…you’ll run around like a crazy person…you’ll be focused on accomplishing goals…you’ll be like a super bride ninja! 

All I can say is…remember to smooch your honey and give him lots of hugs because he’ll be afraid of you and your singular wedding focus, lol!


Yay!! May 19, 2010

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It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!  It’s supposed to be 80 degrees and sunny for our wedding!


Weddzilla post May 4, 2010

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Do you find yourself comparing your wedding to other ladies’ weddings?  Or fighting off “well-meaning” relatives who offer up way too much unsolicited advice?  Well, check out this post as I try to keep things in perspective.  I mean, the one thing that unites all brides (cheap wedding or extravaganza)  is that we believe in the power of the ceremony and of gathering our friends and family around us as we transition into a new phase of life.  Right?  Right, so go check it out.


I heart The Mister April 23, 2010

Filed under: Marriage — Happy Nappy Bride @ 1:07 pm
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I was thinking the other day about The Mister and I and how three years ago when I moved here, I never would’ve guessed that I would be getting married to such a great guy.  And when I think back to those first initial dates, I just think about the things that we had in common that made my radar go up like, hmmmm…maybe?

They were the things that dudes usually tolerated but  The Mister and I had them in common.  Like listening to talk radio.  I always get crap from people about it, but I love NPR or sports talk.  When I moved from New York to Texas, I drove and I listened to talk radio the entire time…no joke, not one song.  I’ll never forget the first time I got into The Mister’s car and he had sports talk on…I was so stoked.  It sounds small, but it really wasn’t.  Not having cable was another “make me go hmmm” thing.  People always either laughed at me because I didn’t have cable or called me cheap or some combination of both.  But guess what happened when I showed up at The Mister’s house for the first time?  That’s right…no cable!  But the biggest thing was the diversity of people he called friends.  They weren’t all Black and that was a big deal.  Because of the life I lead, a lot of my friends are from varied backgrounds and not only was he cool with that…his friends were just the same.  We’ve got similar attitudes about religion and politics and those were all things that made a little voice in the back of my head think that maybe, just maybe, this dude was the one.

So as we get closer to our wedding date, I sometimes find myself looking at him and smiling.  Of course he’s like, what are you smiling at and I just say nothing and keep smiling.  I’m smiling because he’s awesome.  I’m smiling because I call myself blessed for being loved by him.  I’m smiling because he’s a good guy and I love him a whole bunch.

When did you know your guy was the one?  How did you know?


wedding crazy-part deux April 22, 2010

Filed under: Staying sane — Happy Nappy Bride @ 8:55 am
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Yesterday I wrote about fighting the financial wedding crazy that says that the “average” wedding costs $31,000.  But there’s the other side to the wedding crazy…us, lol!  Now we’re all trying to save money, be frugal, stay sane, keep things in perspective, yada, yada, yada.  But…you know you got a little kooky after your dude asked you to marry him.

Wedding crazy is a special kind of crazy.  It’s what happens to otherwise normal and well-adjusted ladies when we get engaged.  An abridged list of symptoms include insatiable desire to buy and read wedding magazines, an odd obsession with stationary and stamps, an ever-growing list of wedding blogs that are on your daily list, an annoying indecisiveness about nonsensical and unimportant things like tulle and napkins and ribbons, and an unnerving vanity about hair, makeup, shoes, and other whatnots.  The only cure as I can see it is the actual wedding, but starting a blog has helped me stave off the crazy.  I’ve got a guy friend who’s getting married this weekend and his fiancee has scared him with her wedding crazy…he looked visibly scared this week, lol!

I try to limit the wedding talk around The Mister because I don’t want him to freak out, but now that we’re about a month out I think it’s gonna be inevitable.   What are you doing to fight the wedding crazy?


side ponytail April 14, 2010

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I’ve just spent entirely too much time looking for a better picture of Ugly Betty’s hair from her sister’s wedding.  It was a super cute curly side ponytail…I think I wanna try it for the big day!


jitters? April 12, 2010

Filed under: Staying sane — Happy Nappy Bride @ 2:29 pm
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Check out this article from over at The Knot, it’s about getting cold feet.  It’s one of those things that we don’t really talk about, but as I read blogs and hear the stress oozing from them…I wonder if this is what’s going on.  There’s more to the article than this, but these are the one’s that seem to keep coming up.

Personally…I’m sick, Aunt Flo is coming next week, work has picked up, and oh yeah…we’re getting married next month!  So I’m sure I’ve been extra fun lately.  I think I’m past the freaking out with every minor disagreement (oh my God how will this last if we’re arguing about this little thing?!!!!!), though it may rear its ugly head again soon as the calendar flips over to May.  Check out this article and let me know what you think:

Got cold feet? Are you experiencing a chilling fear as you realize that you’re about to spend the rest of your life with the same person? Don’t worry, it happens. Most of the time, this freak-out period just means you’re suffering from a case of pre-wedding jitters.

Pre-Wedding Jitters: Reasons NOT to Call it Off

Fed Up Forever?
Is she or he getting on your nerves? Do you suddenly have a low threshold for that messy desk, those unwashed dishes, or that loud sneezing? It’s okay. The engagement period is not always happy camping — pre-wedding stress can make you more irritable, impatient, and easily annoyed. If, out of the blue, his or her friends start bugging you and those habits are driving you berserk, take a deep breath. Recognize that you’re extra moody — and do your best to keep things in perspective.

Pre-Party Panic
Two weeks before the big bash, you find that you’re panicked — you’re sweating, shaking, losing sleep, and not eating. While this is not healthy, it is normal. You’re about to make a commitment for the rest of your life and you’re staring that notion right in the eye. Try your best to relax and be healthy. Your nerves will eventually return to a normal state.

I liked this article because I can try to prepare myself for the freakout and if it comes, I’m not surprised…and if it doesn’t…  Ha!  You better believe I’ll be on here bragging about what a cool customer I am.  So ladies, if you’re freaking out…or just snippy and driving your fiance crazy, you have an excuse!